Last night I asked myself, “What do you value in your connections?” I thought about each friend, each mentor, each person I’ve connected with recently and I realized that some of those connections were great! I have connections that pour into me as I pour into them, people who contribute to my vision and trust that I will contribute to them in some way, and people who are there to love and support me. I also realized there were connections that need to be disconnected. Those connections that only take, drain, and seek to benefit from me, but are expectant that I will be a source of good connection for them. I realized that cutting those connections does not make me a bad person, but it does make me aware and intentional about my own growth and life progress. review your connections today and think hard about how those in your life affect you and also how you affect them. Remember, connection is a two way street. #GoodMorning#Connection#IntentionalConnection#BeIntentional#Coaching#Explore#Friends#Family#Mentors#Wordoftheday#HappyMonday
0 13 hours ago
Dû bist hjir net allinich op dizze ierde.
You are not alone on this earth
Every year Christian Multi Services staff's participates in the IRS National Tax Forum, which this time, was held in the City of New Orleans. All topics concerning 2019's tax law changes were discussed by top professionals in the industry. We are committed to continue offering our clients the highest level of service with the unmatched quality that has made us Danbury's number one tax preparation office. ::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: Todos los años el equipo de Christian Multi Services participa en la Conferencia Anual de impuestos del Departamento de Rentas Internas, la cual se llevó a cabo en la ciudad de New Orleans. Todos los cambios concernientes a las leyes del período 2019 fueron discutidos por los principales profesionales de la industria. Nosotros estamos comprometidos en seguir ofreciendo a nuestros clientes el más alto nivel de servicio, con la calidad inigualable que siempre nos ha caracterizado. .
Just like us our children have bad days too . . . Days when they’re tired, not feeling well, lose their temper or are emotional for no reason. 😔😳😐 This doesn’t make them bad it makes them human, and I think as parents we forget this and expect the best of it all, all the time.
This was the little guys today, they’ve been feeling a little unwell, blocked stuffy noses and sore ears, headaches and tired . . .
So today they stayed home from school, rest was needed, and a hot 40 degrees was all the more reason to keep them home.
They wanted to go to the pool again like yesterday, and originally I said if there was no school today there could be no pool either. 😳
But then I took a moment to reconsider this . . . They were already feeling unwell and uncomfortable, most likely more so in the heat.
We were going on our own, so the usual excitement of playing with others wouldn’t be there.
So with only an hour left before closing I agreed to go, and being the great helpers they are we were packed and out the door in a few minutes.
And it was actually really pleasant and relaxing for us all . . . I chose not to focus on the negativity or the need for rest . . . Instead I chose the joy of building a positive and connected relationship with my boys, who just needed to be, in the heat of a scorching summer day . . . a quiet dip in the pool a welcome relief.
It doesn’t always have to be about the hustle, the daily grind, or the need to get things done.
I chose instead a quiet moment of rest and recovery for us all, and the grace of being human. 💛
I love exploring this question with clients. “If you knew you would be supported, what would you do?” What a wonderful reframe!
I learned the value of true support. Growing up I felt ashamed to ask for help at times. I did reasonably well academically but lacked confidence in some aspects. When I started working for myself there was so much to learn and bring together; support to bring my business into being was a huge benefit despite my years in corporate business, degrees and wellbeing qualifications.
Establishing your groove or revamping areas of life or business can benefit from all kinds of support. Knock backs and challenges are par for the course which is why support is a wonderful way to filter out the distractions on your path.
Support comes in many forms.
Your own mindset
To name a few... So, what would you do if you had support in whatever form you need it at this time?
You think you're any different from me, or your friends, or this tree?
If you listen hard enough, you can hear every living thing breathing together.
You can feel everything growing. We're all living together, even if most folks don't act like it.
We all have the same roots, and we are all branches of the same tree.
Myslíš si, že se od sebe lišíme nebo od svých přátel či od tohoto stromu?
Když se opravdu dobře zaposloucháš, můžeš slyšet, jak vše živé spolu zároveň dýchá. .
Můžeš vnímat, jak vše roste. Všichni tady žijeme pospolu, i když se tak většina lidí nechová.
Všichni máme stejné kořeny a všichni jsme větvemi téhož stromu 💓
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To what degree are you willing to listen? I'm using the word listen but am not referring simply to the auditory ability to listen or hear. Listening, meaning being present, connecting, feeling beyond just what someone says, or how they appear... listening is going to the space between the words, it's going to the I behind the eye, going to the temple of the heart where vulnerability is the key to gain access. It's easy to ignore intentionally though most often we do so unintentionally. We've been conditioned to occupy our minds with what we want to say when someone is communicating with us rather than being present in the moment and we've been conditioned to guard ourselves to prevent from being vulnerable... but true connection including listening to our own bodies, intuition, feelings..., requires a willingness to be vulnerable. To risk rejection or conflict. But like any art form, there is the possibility of a wrong note, mis-step, typo, etc. Art that is error-proop is not art and connection without vulnerability is a monologue for an audience of 1... that kind of connection is akin to emotional masturbation, it's for your pleasure and your pleasure only. That's not connection!
Today, where can we listen a little more deeply and Connect a little more meaningfully? #theartiflistening#connection#communication#love
💛 Me spending significant amount of time out during the weekend meant today is our day to reconnect
💛 Lil T went to the Montessori and got back, asked for massage and bath. In her own way, she seeked my touch and connection. She was smiling and laughing through the massage telling me about her time at the montessori and asking me about my shop (exhibition)
💛 It needn't be a massage, just a pat, a brush on their head, cheeks, holding hands while saying a story, rubbing their back while they lie down, playing hand games we played as a child, where we give hi-fives to some funny lyrics .. who remembers 'Aa meena, clap-clap-clap, super seena ' or '
Uma Joshi ye ye ye,
My mother she told me a sixty years ago.'
💛 Touch and connection are so so important in these formative years..afterall whats more pure and warm than a child's hug and I definitely feel we always receive more from them. One can't help but feel so blessed.and grateful for receiving such unconditional love from that special tiny person .
0 54 hours ago
C O N N E C T I O N
Connection is the way to meet energetically with the other. Sometimes it can be more explicit and sometimes not so much. Some people identify it with " #butterflies in the belly". Some people need only one #kiss to realize, others find it in bed, their two #bodies united #inside each other is one of the most #powerful#human#energies we possess. Others can feel it through a look. Others may #feel the remote #connection from being in the same room without looking at each other until they are in different countries. It is #wonderful what the connection with someone generates us. It makes us feel loved, protected, united, linked in some way.
The connection between two #people also exists by encounter of #souls , two old souls that met again in this plane.
For those who don't #believe in "energies" there is also the connection of course, they are those who can perceive it directly in the #physical and #mental , it is more structural and totally valid. There may be a combination between someone super rational and someone very #spiritual . Both #complementary as the rule says are #attracted to be opposites. Both need both to grow in different areas of their lives. Those who only #connect rationally with another rational partner also carry the connection from a structure, a concept and their #emotions exposed in another way. And not to mention two spiritual people, both can #transcend as beings from their connection, if they seek to do so.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Connecting not only has to do with having things in common, sharing #moments or having good #sex . The main source of the connection is Love, the more love I have for myself (recognized and accepted) the more love I can give around me. The same happens with the connections the more connected I am with myself (recognized and accepted) the easier the connection with my surroundings will be.
Connect from #love , connect from #values , connect from #dreams , connect from the #energy that unites us, feel in a hug the exchange of energy that vibrates in the chest of both. Connect from the #heart . Starting with me. Then to my #partner .
I'm Mathura. The following below is my battle with mental health. It all started stretching a couple of years back with a simple grief... With the passing of my beloved grandmother whom I felt the most connection towards. Till this very day, when that time of the year comes around, I feel this empty feeling, this void I tried to desperately fill up. It didn't help my best friend back then moved to a different state and so the only thing I could do was bottle it all up. I was very happy and cheery but when I was away from the crowd, my tears would be streaking only everflowing.
As I got into uni, I realised I was sheltered quite a lot from the world and already I fell into the dark end with an abusive relationship. Not only did it make me feel insecure, I started to break, I felt worthless and I could feel myself losing grip with the world, losing my connections, my family, my friends as I suffered in silence, my head breaking repeatedly over and over again and I closed myself up. I was afraid and scared to love again. I didn't go out, I couldn't face the world, my concentration started to decrease. I was oblivious to the very fact I had spiralled to the lowest lows I could ever be. I was worried about judgement, I was anxious about how I looked and appealed to other people. Most of all, there was one thing that affected me most. Loss. Loss in the form of people, bonds.
I finally found the source of my battle with mental health. With that and my amazing connections with my bestest of friends ( you know who you are) I started to love again, and realised that I was trying to fill a void instead of confronting it. And so I confronted it which was the hardest but the best thing I've done. I am a stronger woman now whose learnt to accept and preach self-love, I stand to love the world, for both the bad and good. And the best thing I did was share my story. I shared it to show people that connections can be made. We are all connected through the very existence of humanity itself. Mental health doesn't have to be a single battle. Let's all come together to listen share and refine ourselves in this ever-changing world.
A reminder for however this may be relevant to you: you can begin again at any time. Maybe that's all we're really doing -- beginning again, over and over. 💫
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None of us are able to be supportive 100% of the time. Similarly, no one is able to be supportive of us 100% of the time. Understanding this creates so much more room for us (and others) to not feel pressured to be everything to everyone all the time, but we often attribute it to someone not caring, not wanting to help, or being unsupportive.
The truth is that even when we *want* to be supportive, we have our own lives. We have our own hard days and our own lack of sleep and our sickness and own worries and our own stuff, whatever it may be. Sometimes, our own stuff makes it really challenging to be supportive in certain moments. And this is okay.
When we allow ourselves to communicate what we're able and not able to do, we give ourselves the chance to take care of our needs so we can fully show up when we're able to. When we allow others to express when they don't actually have space to hold for us, we create more freedom in the relationship and we avoid pressure, resentment, frustration, and disappointment.
When someone needs support, I encourage you to check in and ask yourself if you're really able to support them in the way they need. If you're not, maybe it's okay to say so.
Similarly, when *you* need support, I encourage you to make sure the person you're seeking support from is available and able to support you. If they aren't, you have an opportunity to seek out support that meets you where you're at, which is usually what we actually need.
Expressing our needs and holding boundaries around what we do and don't have space for creates honesty and open communication in relationships, and it allows us to know it's okay if we simply don't have it in us in every given moment. It allows us to let that be okay in others, too.
Thoughts to chew on.
Note: there will be occasions where we have to offer support, even if we don't have the bandwidth to (I think of parents as a huge example when I say this!). This is simply a reminder to check in around what your patterns are and to get curious around how you might be able to recognize when you do and don't have the ability to fully show up. ✌🏻
Moving through hardship, trauma, and old patterns isn't the only thing that changes and transforms us. Joy, connection, and goodness change and transform us, too.
We easily forget that doing "the work" (healing, growing, developing, shifting, transforming, changing) doesn't mean ONLY doing the work. It also means making room for what's good, even if it's only moment by moment. It means making room for just being. Connecting. Laughing. Creating moments of pleasure. Noticing ease. Reveling in genuine connection. Feeling presence when it arises. Dancing like a wild soul (because we are). Going for a walk just to walk. Savoring your favorite meal. Sitting and watching trees collect raindrops. Having a sweet phone call with someone you love. Tasting your tea. Allowing compliments and just saying thank you. Listening to the song that invokes a sweet memory. Feeling the earth in your hands. Sharing stories. Taking photos of things that catch your eye. Reminiscing. Watching the fluffy TV show when it calls to you. Ignoring the rules and shoulds. Paying attention to your aliveness.
Where do you find joy? Connection? Goodness? Lightness? Don't forget to include the good stuff in your inner work because it's a part of it. It matters. It deeply matters. And it, too, changes us. 💫
Reclaiming our creativity is decolonizing our minds which have been conditioned to believe that creativity comes from a unique genius that only few possess.
Indigenous and ancestral wisdom teaches that creativity is inborn, inherent to living and existing, intrinsic to being a social spirit in human form, a vessel, channel and translator of collective inspiration from all around and before us.
One of my favorite offerings, The Abundant Creativity consultation series, begins in February 2020. For 3 months, a group of womxn and i meet digitally individually and collectively to reclaim, decolonize and redefine creativity for the highest good; to leverage our senses, body intelligence, and a deeper connection with our inner children and backgrounds; and to act on our calling for personal and social transformation via creative expression and expansion.💥
Find more information at the “Creativity” story highlights, including the application and words from alumni. If you’re wanting to step more into your creativity, manifest the ideas you have, share and witness in an affirming and inspiring space, learn and liberate your creatresse voice, this was designed for you, and us. 👁✨🖤