Quick tip for clean trails : it is always a wonderful feeling to find a pristine spot to set up base in. Clearing the ash & camp debri before moving onto your next site helps the next explorer feel as good as you did when you discovered it.
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Sometimes you just gotta throw those big heavy rocks back in the ocean, you know?
This kid is such a teacher for me.
I’ve been really struggling through some messy shit with my parents. I’ve been trying to set a clear boundary for years, but found myself consistently pulled back into performative tasks instead. Shame, guilt, and a big case of the “maybe if I justs” held control for a long, long time.
It took a series of incredibly painful and hurtful actions for me to finally make the decision to stop taking care of their feelings and put my own (and my family’s) wellbeing first.
But, it’s been a bigger struggle than I anticipated. Almost every day I cry. Definitely every day I think about it. I try to forget- denial avoidance, I think that’s called?
Anger works, for awhile. It fuels my rage filled justification. And, oh, the conversations I carry on between my own two ears. I have all the right words when I’m the one in charge of both sides of the dialogue.
Yet still, even though it’s the right choice, even though it’s actually taking care of myself, even though it’s logical to walk all the way away, I still find myself looking in my metaphorical pockets for those rocks, feeling strangely off balance without their weight.
Maybe someday the rocks will be crystals, and I’ll have a special place to hold them, and maybe they’ll even be close to my heart again.
Or maybe they won’t.
All I know is that for now, it’s hard to let them go, it’s worse to let them stay, and the space in between, hurts.
Ah! It feels good to create in the midst of getting sick and intense schedule.
Here are different types of defense mechanisms. Defense mechanisms are automatic, involuntary and unconscious reactions to avoid unacceptable thoughts, emotions and impulses from awareness of fear of disapproval, punishment, threats and other perceived negativities.
Learning the language and vocabularies to our unconscious brings awareness so that we can learn ways to cope, understand what is going on internally, and lessen ways that harm ourself and others.
Sometimes all it takes is communicating without our walls up, defense or trying to “win.” ✨🤍 because in the end, winning happens when two or more people can love and understand.
Always put your feet in your customer's shoes. Do not just know that you can provide the solution to their problem. Be in their shoes while having that "problem" - then you can best provide the service because you understand the urgency, the desperation, the degree of pain. At @wyntecau we always adopt this service philosophy. This could help your business as well. #customerlove#business#success#customer#customerservice#empathy#servicequality
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Be gentle and kind to yourself. To quote @yogainspiration “you do not wake up and become the butterfly”. Growth is a process, and you are exactly where you need to be right at this moment of your journey. Everything that is happening in your life is here to serve you, not happening to you.
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it's difficult to understand others if you can't feel them in yourself
Sorry I havent posted in a while. I've been going thru a transitional period in my life. I'm finally settling down. Life is good.
Credit to: @gowathaman
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A report published in Welt am Sonntag newspaper revealed that up to 200,000 dairy calves are killed or die within three months of birth in Germany.
In the dairy industry, calves are bred for milk production. A mother must be impregnated to meet maximum supply requirements. But if she gives birth to a male, he is not fit for dairy production. And dairy breeds are not suitable for meat production. Farmers consider them too expensive to keep and a “waste of resources.” So they are killed instead.
Because half of the calves born are male, the numbers that are killed are quite expansive. In order to conserve resources, farmers often do not pay to slaughter or dispose of them. A veterinarian told the newspaper, “If a calf is not even worth €30 ($33), and you need €50 for the veterinarian, a farmer faces a dilemma. Many find it is too expensive to even pay €20 for the slaughter and the processing plant.” Leaving calves to die is illegal in Germany. But many farmers find easy disposal the most cost effective method. .
돌이킬 수 없는 일이 있었다
치욕스럽다, 할 것까지는 아니었으나
쉽게 잊힐 일도 아니었다
혼자 떠나버린 나의 가방은
비가 오는 것도 아니었는데
감기가 든 영혼은 자주 콜록거렸다
누런 아기를 손마디에 달고 흔들거리던 은행나무가 물었다, 나, 때문인가요?
첼로의 아픈 손가락을 쓸어주던 바람이 물었다, 나, 때문인가요?
무대 뒤편에서 조용히 의상을 갈아입던 중년 가수가 물었다, 나 때문인가요?
누구 때문도 아니었다
말 못 할 일이었으므로
고개를 흔들며 그들을 보냈다
시간이 날 때마다 터미널로 나가
돌아오지 않는 가방을 기다렸다
술냄새가 나는 오래된 날씨를 누군가
매일매일 택배로 보내왔다
불가능과 비슷한 온도를 가진
우동 국물을 넘겼다
가방은 영원히 돌아오지 않을 거라는
그 예감은 참, 무참히 돌이킬 수 없었다
an irreversible thing occurred
It wasn’t humiliating but
it also wasn’t something so easily forgotten
my bag left on its on
and never returned
It wasn’t raining
yet my hair got drenched
so my soul caught a cold with a chronic cough
A gingko tree swaying with yellow babies hanging from its knuckles asked
Me, am I to blame?
The wind rubbing the aching fingers on a cello asked Me, am I to blame?
A middle-aged singer silently changing out of stage clothes backstage asked
Am I to blame?
It was nobody’s fault
It wasn’t possible to explain why
so shaking my head I released them
Whenever I found the time I went to the bus terminal
and waited for my bag that never returned
Everyday someone sent me
a parcel of old weather that reeked of alcohol
Finally in the terminal
I swallowed udon soup
which had a temperature similar to impossible
Because I had a hunch
my bag would never return
The hunch was really, tragically irreversible .
In keeping with an earlier post from our brother @wvnder.cam
Some kings have boobs. My identity as a man isn't determined by surgeries or hormones. Your identity as a man is not defined by anyone but you
Recently, I’ve been noticing kind of a miraculous shift which has come out of all of the grief I’ve experienced over the past two years. It’s like the grief has dug a well into my heart so deep that I am now able to meet life at a deeper depth then I thought was possible. I am also able to meet others in their pain in a way in which I didn’t know was possible either. No longer do I inch away while listening to someone share their deepest gut wrenching pain. I lean in. I no longer try to jump out of my body by offering “flowery perspectives”, or a spiritually bypassy phrase. I lean in. I have always talked about holding space but until my own heart was dug completely into and cracked wide open, leaving me with no other option but to feel it all, my capacity has expanded be with others in their pain with nowhere to go. To love others more fully. To meet life more fully. And that is a gift of the aftermath of grief. 💔💗🦋
Hay tanto amor dentro de cada uno de nosotros...
Fuimos creados desde el amor, para ser amados y amar inmensamente, desde lo individual a lo colectivo, desde lo indefenso hasta a quienes con sus malas palabras nos muestran como ser mejores cada día. Somos responsables de cada cosa que nos pasa, de cada sonrisa, de cada lágrima... porque somos quienes permitimos que eso nos afecte más o menos... pero somos bondadosos, EMPÁTICOS y es ahí donde debemos encontrarnos todes , para dejar de atacarnos, de segmentarnos, de mirarnos y creernos superiores. Estamos destruyendo nuestro planeta, nos estamos quedando sin amor, estamos botando la empatía a la basura.
Instagram nos muestra una vida perfecta, donde nadie sufre, donde todes tienen los dientes perfectos y blancos radiantes... pero todes apoyamos la cabeza al dormir, y cada uno tiene que lidiar con sus fantasmas.
Por eso, porque a todes nos duele algo y todes tenemos ganas de ser abrazados. Les digo que los amo, que me duele, que lloro fuerte, que tengo miedo... pero que amo tan fuerte que los quiero contagiar... para que esto por último les saque una sonrisa. Buenas noches! #karmaisabitch
peran saya selaku seorang dokter di lingkungan, saya lebih senang berbagi ilmu melalui penyuluhan ke berbagai tempat.
1. Melalui penyuluhan yg selama ini dilakukan baru ke sekolah paud dan TK, baru tentang kesehatan anak, berupa penyakit pada anak, pertolongan pertama pada anak.
2. Penyuluhan ke anak sekolah tntg kesehatan reproduksi, phbs.
3. Melalui Sejuta Cinta, setiap bulan sekali melakukan penyuluhan dan penapisan diabetes di Lapangan Merdeka Kota Sukabumi.
1.karena gizi masih menjadi masalah pada anak, sy ingin belajar tentang ASI, MPASI jg makanan untuk anak sehingga bisa kembali memberikan edukasi pada ibu ibu sekitar.
2. Pengen juga belajar tentang pemilahan sampah, karena di sini masih membuang sampah ke sungai, ingin buat bank sampah, bisa ditabung untuk dipakai berobat.
3. Ingin buat perpustakaan di lingkungan untuk anak anak, jd anak anak tidak melulu menonton youtube/gawai, dialihkan membaca buku.
Step 1: Be curious and open to notice more. When we all get busy, distracted, or overloaded, we stop paying attention to the quality of other people's lives. .
Step 2: Slow down enough to interpret more generously. Brings out more compassion in the system.
Step 3: Cultivate your empathy. Empathy is the ability to feel what another person is going through, and see if you interpret more it generously. .
Step 4: Take action. Simply said, takes proactivity and time to do it.
It has been a long few days of lows, highs, and low blood sugars. It is tough work staying in a normal range for a 3 years. The hard part is the lows and high make her feel terrible in different ways. She feels nauseated, dizzy, exhausted, sluggish, struggles to talk, or has pain in her body. She can’t express this easily, but it has gotten a little bit easier to identify. She just needed someone to snuggle her so her big brother opened his arms and said, “I’m here.” Somehow he feels her pain and knows she is struggling. Many people don’t understand her invisible disease, but he tries. #t1dwarrior#t1dlookslikeme#t1d#typeone#t1dmom#momlife#t1dstrong#t1dlife#t1dbrother#stronggirl#strongboy#empathymatters#empathy
Are you a claircognizant/ intuitive empath? ⠀
This means you receive downloads or have a sense of knowing things about people or places. ⠀
You often know about a persons habits, lifestyle, fears, and aspects of their life that they don't share. ⠀
Drop me a 🧠 in the comments if you are a claircognizant empath! ⠀
Tag your empath friend! ⠀
I think at the end of this week, after showing some of the genetics behind love and human relationships, if people would want to know their partner's genes before marrying them. I don't even know where I stand on this... But I know there are genetic apps and programs out there that will do this and I don't know where the lines will be drawn in relationships. Let's think about it together.
Like wouldn't you like to know if your partner was more empathetic than most others and your children would likely be more loving too?
Wait until I post about the cheating mutation 😬
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My child was on the verge of a meltdown. I could see it coming. I could feel it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Have you been there too?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I counted to 10 in my head. I took some deep breaths.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I simply asked: How can I help you? What do you need?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And the tears poured down her cheeks.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And she sank into me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
She needed me to just be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
She didn't need my correction, my second-guessing her, my tiredness and frustration.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
She needed to feel heard.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
She needed to feel connection.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The softening that empathy brings is absolutely crucial.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Be the landing spot. Be the hugs. Be the calm.🌱⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
102 2,60115 February, 2020
A day, a person, an experience or an opinion is as significant to your life as YOU CHOOSE it/them to be.
Shout out to those pouring love, priority, attention and intention back into themselves, daily. Happy day of lovee to everyone💜.
Ps. No, I am not nakey🤪. #SelfCareEveryDamnDay