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Being able to engage in repair is a necessary relationship skill.
I have seen so many couples part ways when one partner isn’t capable (or willing) to acknowledge how their behaviors have hurt their partner.
I created a little guideline on how to approach a repair conversation:
1-Take some time to reflect on the behaviors you engaged in that were harsh, passive, or defensive.
Some examples of (harsh behaviors) are being critical, name-calling, or speaking with a freighting tone.
Some examples of (defensiveness) are turning the focus on yourself or acting like you are completely innocent.
Some examples of (passive behaviors) are shutting down or dis-engaging with your partner during a fight.
2-Take responsibility for the (specific) hurtful behavior you engaged in.
One of the biggest misconceptions of “taking responsibility” many people have is they feel doing it means they are admitting “fault.”
Taking responsibility does NOT mean that we are admitting we are “wrong” while our partner is “right.”
This is simply not true!
Taking healthy responsibility means that we can see how certain behaviors of ours are hurtful or are triggers for our partner.
It also means that we are capable of embracing two realities at the same time.
3-Express remorse for how that behavior impacted your partner.
Once you have accepted that embracing your partner’s reality is valid alongside of yours, try to infuse some emotion in your apology.
Allow yourself to feel some guilt or sadness for hurting your partner.
It doesn’t have to be a lot - even a tiny bit of emotional attunement truly goes a long way!
Many people tend to go into shame rather than guilt here.
And the key is to make this emotional expression about your partner, and not about you.
4-Allow your partner to have their own experience .. (even if that is hard).
You may have done all the right things and your partner STILL needs some time to process.
And that can be really hard especially after you just laid your heart out to them.
Try to self-soothe if this happens but also don’t allow your partner to treat you poorly or shut you out here. #coachingwithsilvy
What would you add here?