that’s a hard no 😂
David & I are NOT back together...
I know you’ve seen him pop up in my feed & stories recently & that may be causing confusion.
#letsbereal not even confusion - just straight up curiosity 😂 #igetit I would be curious too!!
so here’s the deal:
David & I have CHOSEN to have a cordial relationship - for many reasons but primarily because it’s HEALTHY to do so!
healthy for me. healthy for him.
healthy for the kids. healthy for the home environment.
and #bet - THIS is ssooo new to me!!!
healthy is still new to me! (sounds crazy #iknow but my fellows in recovery can understand)
yes, I’m still mad about what happened. what David did.
yes, I’m still hurt. and from time to time, I’ll think about it & sit in my feelings processing them.
but I made a decision at the end of last year after my therapist said something that changed EVERYTHING -
“surrender. doesn’t mean you have to forgive. just surrender.” #ifeltthat
esp because of my history - surrendering was the first step in getting better.
from that day on, the way I dealt with my feelings & the way I reacted towards him changed - completely #yes#justlikethat
those in recovery understand the DANGER of harboring ill feelings #lifeordeath
plus - life is about growth, right?! I wouldn’t be growing if I stayed reacting the way I initially did - very similar to the way I used to when I was crazy #butlikeforreal crazy 😂
being cordial is a conscious decision I have to make every.single.day. it’s not always easy, but it becomes more “natural” the more I do it #odaat
it’s a process - for the both of us!
in the meantime, we choose to get along 😆
and we choose to co-parent
which is also very new to me!! #believeitotnot
never co-parented with desi’s dad - that relationship was incredibly toxic - mentally, emotionally & physically
it’s different with little man, tho - david is a very involved (& awesome) father #thankfully & william absolutely ADORES him.
so we choose to spend time together especially doing “family” things since well, the truth is - WE ARE A FAMILY.
Before after and in between #baldgirl .
I will say Do not follow the easy crowd, be in your lane.
Don’t find reason for everything , sometime you just need to do it be a you feel it.
Listen to your heart 💖 be happy and radiate happiness #happinessisachoice
I’m blessed my papa gave me finishing touch, mom didn’t talk for an hour but after seeing me she’s like you look good. 🤣 #justlikethat #baldandbeautiful