Do you date your spouse? If not you better start. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our other roles we forget our spouses. Remember one day you will retire from that job. One day your kids will be gone and living their own lives and you will be left with the person you promised forever to. My advice NEVER STOP DATING! Because when all of those other roles fall away you are left with each other. I can’t wait for the rest of my life with this man. .
10 577 hours ago
Met in 2016, engaged in 2017, married in 2018, move and baby in 2019, 2 year anniversary in 2020. ❤️❤️❤️ It has been a FULL and BUSY past few years, and today we celebrate 2 years of marriage!!. I LOVE this guy!!! And let me tell you, I never could have guessed how deep and powerful our love could become. This isn’t the “starry eyed, stomach churning, love-struck” kind of love (although there is that too)...but more importantly this is the “richer or poorer, through sickness and health, having a baby, moving across the country, watching my husband grow and overcome” kind of way. Not a lot of people could deal with my health issues, or be ok watching me go from being an active and healthy woman to a bedridden and sick one. oh, and also taking on the full financial burden since I couldn’t work, and trying to figure out how to finish his degree while being a husband and a dad- especially as a 22-24 year old. Not a lot of people could keep loving another person SO FULLY and without remorse through the heaviness illness brings. Nothing is sweeter than watching my husband ADORE our baby, and then turn to me and tell me how much he adores me too, even when I don’t feel like someone worthy of adoration. Nothing is sweeter than the fact that he still reaches for me in his sleep, even though sometimes there’s a tiny baby body in between us- and he still always ends up with one hand resting on our baby and one hand resting on me. Nothing beats waking up to this man and falling asleep beside him, lazy days walking on the beach and busy weeks where he comes home and we gets to deal with poopy bath time and juggling the “dinner-baby-pass” (if you know, you know😘). Nothing is sweeter than the love of my life, and nothing is better than knowing I get to love him and be loved by him until I die.
Happy anniversary Ken, you are the greatest gift I’ve ever been given and I adore you with everything in me. Thank you for being strong and courageous, and loving our family and fighting for what’s right. You are magic, and so very loved! Here’s to 75 years of marriage❤️❤️❤️😘🤗🥰 #email@example.com
4 4111 hours ago
On this #marriagelife segment, I want to talk about #datenights and why they’re so important for your marriage.
When Gustavo and I met, every moment was a date night. Now, we need to be more intentional about our romantic dates, because you know, life gets crazy sometimes. I work on my business, he works at a company and we’re working hard to achieve our dreams. Time can seem not enough, but all depends on how you prioritize what you really want.
These are the reasons why date nights are important:
1️⃣This is the time you focus-on each and talk about important topics which help you stay connected. This connectedness helps you feel less stressed in the midst of the chaos that is life.
2️⃣Another great benefit is that you get less stressed and intimacy grows.
3️⃣Regular date nights also help you build resilience to carry your marriage relationship during the challenges that life brings.
4️⃣By doing fun things together, your marriage stays happy.
5️⃣And the best part is that you don’t need lots of money to do fun things! 🌈You can get a good bottle of wine or any drink you want, and stay at home watching a movie. 🌈Cook a delicious dinner for two, with wine and candles 😉. 🌈Have a board game night. 🌈Give each other’s a massage 💆 💆♂️ 🌈 Hop in the car, decide what direction you will head and how many miles you will drive. Grab a bite to eat at the restaurant closest to that mile marker and enjoy each other’s company.
🌈Have a budget date night every month 😉☺️🥰 Date nights don’t need to be extravagant and expensive (unless you like that and have the money to do it 😅😉), but they need to be intentional😃
There are endless ideas for date nights, which is your favorite one? 📸: @oflizarazo_11 🥰
No matter how much I say I love you, I ⓁⓄⓋⒺ you more than that 💗
4 6424 February, 2020
My parents in 1956 ❤️
4 3624 February, 2020
A much needed quiet weekend in the mountains with @braden_lung ! We both have been coming out of a dry season in our faith and really wanted to take this weekend to reconnect with God individually and together. Our pastor talks about how he and his wife do this every year to reconnect with God individually, together, to pray over the church, their marriage, their family, and seek God’s guidance and direction for the year to come. So, we thought we would give this a try for ourselves! We booked a cabin on Airbnb with no TV, WiFi, or any other distractions. After we booked the cabin and were looking at the directions, we realized we booked a cabin on a Christian retreat center!! How crazy cool is that?! God is always full of surprises! We actually ended up having the WHOLE retreat center to ourselves all weekend.
If you are a married couple and have not tried this type of a getaway before, we highly recommend it!! This is definitely something we will continue to do each year in our marriage! .
3 4823 February, 2020
We are recording an audio blog this week about Niles' birth story. It was one of the most requested topics when we asked what you wanted to hear about. 🤰🤱
So we are coming to you again.. what details do you want to make sure we include? We promise to cover as much of what you ask as possible!
Comment here, DM us, or respond to our story. 📷@maryotanezphotography
Hoje a gente comemora mais um ano de casamento. Mas quer saber ?! Todos os dias ao lado dele é motivo de comemorar e agradecer a Deus por tudo o que Ele tem feito por nós e em nós.
Obrigada, Senhor, pela família... Um projeto tão profundo e sobrenatural! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
E a medida em que o tempo passa, eu quero ficar assim, igual na foto: cada vez mais parecida com o Gilson e nós dois cada vez mais parecidos com Jesus.
Ele nem olha Instagram, as postagens são todas minhas, mas preciso dizer : te amo, meu amor! A nossa família é um projeto de Deus que eu amo viver! ❤️🥰😍😘
. #happyanniversary #marriageanniversary#marriageworks#marriageisforever#marriageisawesome
11 10523 February, 2020
If you agree that marriage is awesome but also really freaking hard 😫 and people should be ABSOLUTELY sure about the person they are marrying before making a lifelong commitment to put up with someone else’s BS for life, then you’re gonna want to stop what you’re doing and go watch the show “Love is Blind” on Netflix.📺
It is stupid and stressful and the most wonderfully juicy and dramatic show I’ve watching since “The Circle” and has given me new hope that 1: I did, indeed, choose the right man 😂 and 2: Our marriage is a lot more solid than I give us credit for.🥰
Is anyone else ADDICTED to this show and think ALL of these people are completely insane for marrying someone they barely know?!😱
Did you know that Jeremy and I broke up twice while dating?
He broke up with me at 3 months because he said he had never dated a girl longer than 3 months, and just didn’t know if he wanted to marry me or not. LOL. I didn’t know either—so two days later he came back and said he was an idiot😂
Then I broke up with him after a year, dealt with a LOT of hard crap myself, did a lot of healing and hard work, and 7 months later we got back together.
When people ask us if marriage has been hard, we both honestly feel like it’s been SO good. Even almost 12 years in, just so good. I feel like we sorted through so much junk, hard, ugly, refining stuff while dating that marriage has been 🙌🏻🙌🏻 because of it. SO thankful for this man.
Did you and your spouse ever break up while dating, or are we the only weirdos who did it (twice)?!
68 57321 February, 2020
I remember this moment like it was yesterday. I had butterflies in my stomach and I had to stop myself from running to him. I couldn’t wait for him to see me, to see the reaction in his eyes when he saw me at my best. We are 5 years into marriage today and this man continues to stop and truly see me. He has seen me at my best and at my worst and he loves me more for all of it. I have never felt more known and seen by anyone. This next year in our marriage will be full of crazy changes(hello pregnancy and baby!) but I have no doubt that this man will continue to lead our marriage and show me unconditional love through it all. #anniversary#marriageisawesome
4 3321 February, 2020
We have officially been married for 4 years. Not everyday is perfect. But most are great. And I’m so grateful to be your wife. There isn’t a day that I ever question your love for me and for our little family. Thank you for celebrating with me (pic 1), high five-ing through life with me (pic 2), holding me (pic 3), looking at me (pic 4), and kissing me (pic 5) the way that you do. Cheers to many, many more years together. I love and adore you. Your wife.
No trees were harmed during the making of this photo 🌿
1 2321 February, 2020
The best parts of marriage are small, seemingly mundane moments of everyday life.⠀
•Talking while doing the dishes.⠀
•Splashing & laughing together during baby’s bath time.⠀
•Sitting on the couch eating dinner together at 9pm once the kiddos are in bed.⠀
•Unspoken teeth brushing competitions before bed.⠀
•Pillow talk that leads to an uncontrollable giggle fit.⠀
•Waking up next to your bad-breathed, bed-headed, sleepy-eyed love of your life.⠀
I have chronic migraines and they knock me on my butt. I have never felt more loved than when I’m feeling my absolute worst and my sweet husband tells me to go lay down and he’ll take care of everything around the house. He comes & tucks me in with a cool washcloth, a glass of water, and a kiss, and tells me to just sleep. ❤️⠀
You see, social media would probably have you believe that the best parts of marriage are fancy dinners at high end restaurants, or globetrotting hand in hand taking the most aesthetically pleasing photos in front of the worlds most well-known monuments, but that’s just simply not the case.⠀
The moments I love the most are the simple ones spent at home. Taking care of each other, encouraging each other, just being with each other having the time of our lives. ❤️⠀
What’s a simple, seemingly mundane moment or action that makes you feel loved in your marriage? 👇🏻
38 54921 February, 2020
When I met Rea way back 2006, she already had her second surgery.
By the time we entered into a relationship in 2010, she was already at her 7th.
But when I was praying for courage to ask her hand in marriage, she was already on her 10th operation.
These series of operations was all because of a recurring tumor in her abdomen and sometimes metastasizing in other parts of her body.
The doctors call it Adrenocortical Carcinoma, a rare disease that hits only one in one million persons in a population.
In layman’s term, Rea has cancer.
As for me, it is my reality of am I really ready and prepared emotionally, psychologically, financially, and even spiritually to live a life of marriage with her? Also, with her condition, can I be strong enough to endure if the time comes that her sickness really reccurs?
By God’s grace, for Rea and with Rea,
I WILL BE.
True enough, only a year into our marriage, Rea’s cancer came back and caused her 12th and 13th surgery. Praise God they were both successful.
Yes, this sickness is one of our realities. But we believe that it is also a gift God entrusted to us. A gift, because this truly made our marriage stronger and our hope in the Lord deeper.
With this, we would love to invite you my dear friend who are deeply in love and in a relationship to please do consider marriage for your one true love and to not fear it. The both of you together is already a proof that despite and inspite of the realities and problems you each have, your relationship still worked.
So, if God is calling you to this vocation, trust me when I say to you, that you are more than capable and ready.
THAT YOU CAN BE.
Our prayers are with you, that may we find the strength and courage to always pursue what is best for our one true love. +
Michael and I are headed on a date night tonight to go hear @bobgoff speak and I'm SO EXCITED. He surprised me with tickets AND we are going to @secret_sandwich_society before... which pretty much means it's going to be the best day ever
We decided at the beginning of the year to go on at least one date night out a month. Niles gets to hang out with his granny and we get to spend some quality time together
Any ideas for some fun date nights in RVA? I am in charge of planning for next month, and I have no idea how to top this month!
6 3820 February, 2020
#TBT 🎶🎶 We sat by the water and talked about life.... 🎶🎶❤ @nfrealmusic #marriageisawesome but its not perfect.
💕 & daily we need to be reminded to pick selfless over selfish, to give up the right to be right & to know we are imperfect humans with triggers & baggage we need to constantly bring before the Lord. We must CHOOSE to communicate with our spouse. ⚠️
Learn to love daily. 🍦
We enjoyed the food with the view & good ole love songs & ice cream ❤
We took a vacation and left the babies. 😭 That was really hard for me as a momma bear. But a wise person once said. “The greatest gift you can give your kids is a good and strong marriage.” The week we’ve spent in Colorado was full of nothing but adventures and time for just us. Which we never get between the lovely schedule of a nurse/paramedic duo, on top of our kids baseball/softball and school schedules. Sometimes we barely see each other. We went from hiking in perfect weather, then today in a foot of snow with nothing but laughter. He couldn’t breathe and I literally face planted in the snow. 🤣 Our love has always thrived off of adventure and I’m so glad you’re my husband. The happiness your presence brings and the reassurance in your touch and our time together is the best thing I could ever ask for. I love you. 😭
A few weeks ago I was sitting in MOPs watching a discussion video about marriage & how to be intentional with your spouse.
Of course I nerded out & took notes, because I mean, who doesn’t like learning new things & getting better?! 🙋🏼♀️
Notice anything about this awkward, mushy pic of gazing into each other eyeballs?! Well, don’t get me wrong we can totally have our mushy pants on some days, but a lot of days we aren’t gazing into the eyes of one another like we used to when we were dating. One of the challenges in this discussion was to look into your significant others eyes for.... wait for it.
For FOUR minutes!! This challenge and exercise is supposed to create togetherness and closeness with one another. Not going to lie, we tried it and it took us probably 45 minutes to lock eyes for four whole minutes 🤣, but all in all- I’m totally a firm believer in it. Don’t throw it out until ya try it! Tag someone & challenge them with the eyeball stare & see how close you and your spouse get!
The "divide and conquer" approach to errands is popular, but I 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 recommend it! One of the biggest complaints couples bring into my counseling office is that they don't feel connected anymore. They only feel like two 𝘳𝘰𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘴 managing a household together. 😒😔
A giant culprit of the roommate problem? The "divide and conquer" strategy.
Sometimes, y'all do need to be in two places at the same time. (That was us yesterday we snapped this picture. 📷) But Johnny and I have made a goal to run errands together, as a family, whenever we can. 👪 Sure it's less efficient, but those precious hours together keep us united.
➡ What do you think? Divide and Conquer? -Or- Divide and 𝘉𝘦 Conquered?
Stay tuned for a blog post sometime later this week...
22 6018 February, 2020
RELATIONSHIP is not supposed to be a fairytale. .
Marriage is the joining of two egos into one soul. It’s a deep and arduous experience which leads to bliss. The coal enjoys the pressure because it knows it is on its way to diamond-hood.
10 7018 February, 2020
Our second audio blog is up this morning, where we cover the first set of questions from the @nytimes article 36 Questions that Lead to Love. We talk about our perfect day, list a few songs we sing to Niles, and there’s even a clip from @familyfeud ! Thanks to @laracasey for sharing the article! Listen in and then do it with your spouse. Let us know how it goes! #michaelandlauraphotography
2 1918 February, 2020
Matthew 19:6 New International Version (NIV)
6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 🙌🏻🙌🏻 así es!! Ni si quiera nosotros tenemos la “elección” de terminar nuestro matrimonio, no podemos separarlo 🔝🔝El amor es una decisión y nuestro matrimonio es un pacto delante de Dios para toda la vida‼️ so is!! We don't even have the “choice” to end our marriage, we can't separate it 🔝🔝 Love is a decision and our marriage is a covenant before God for a lifetime‼️ #paintchurch#marriage#love#marriageisawesome#panama#covenantministry
0 718 February, 2020
Many get into relationships not taking into consideration how much work it’ll take to make the relationship thrive. This is the main reason why people end up getting divorce. To have a healthy relationship you must first have a healthy outlook of yourself and the world around you. Once that’s in order you’ve positioned yourself to have a happy and wholistic relationship. Go to the link in bio to find out more about our next relationship conference.
4 3618 February, 2020
What good is a lasting marriage if it’s UNHAPPY, am I right?🤷♂️🤷♀️ 7(ish) years in and we found ourselves in a ROUGH spot and it wasn’t getting better. But there had to be more, so we went to work 💪🏼👊🏼💪🏼 Sound familiar? You’re not alone! Rough spots, difficult, unhappy times are not uncommon. But that doesn’t mean it can’t get better 👍🏼🎉 The Meaningful Marriage is the result of learning👩🎓👨🎓, listening🧏♀️🧏♂️, and discussing 🙋♀️🙋♂️ relationships with 100s of couples‼️ We are far from perfect, but these smiles are more real today than they have ever been. ☺️☺️Thanks for joining us on the journey. 🙌🙌
3 5718 February, 2020
They say what you water grows. That’s definitely the case in our relationship 👩❤️👨 This Valentines Day we would like to ditch the conventional flowers/chocolates post to share a book that has helped us to understand each other better and create a deeper connection.
We all give and receive LOVE 💗. In The 5 Love Languages 📚 by Gary Chapman, Gary outlines 5 ways in which we show affection and therefore prefer to receive affection. Identifying the one your partner needs MOST will help him/her feel super loved and appreciated.
The 5 Love Languages are:
1 Words of Affirmation
2 Acts of Service
3 Receiving Gifts
4 Quality Time
5 Physical Touch
Our Love Languages are Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. Yeh, so no need for the Valentines Day gifts lol 😂
You can google the quiz to find out yours. And it’s not limited to your partner either, you can use it to understand your children better, parents and anyone else you are close to.
Let’s do this whole marriage thing forever, k?
I know we’re only 5 years into this, but I’m pretty sure I’m always going to be this obsessed with you. You’re my best friend. The one I always ask for advice. Travel partner. Bug killer. You push me in ways I hate to be pushed, but that is something I always wanted in a husband. A relationship where we say things like: How can I do better? What do you need from me? I believe in you. You got this. Want help? We can do it together.
Takin’ it back to our wedding song, “Baby, grow old with me.”
20 13714 February, 2020
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I accidentally fell in love with a Marine.⠀
I knew no one in the military before him, and certainly knew nothing about the military lifestyle. Now I’ve been living it for 5 years strong (also worked for the Marine Corps for 3 years), and can honestly say without a doubt that Marines are the best people I have ever met.⠀
They are respectful, appreciative, hard working, and they don’t complain. They care more about their fellow Marines than they do about themselves, and the love they have for this country is bigger than the Pacific Ocean.⠀
The military life is not always easy, and a lot of people wouldn’t choose this way of life, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Being surrounded and engulfed in Marine Corps culture has taught me so many lessons, and I truly believe I am a better person because I know Marines.⠀
There are definitely challenges with this lifestyle, like one day your husband is here and the next he is on a 2 month training with little communication capabilities; or you get put on an SDA (special duty assignment) like recruiting (what we’re on right now) and even though he’s “home” he’s never actually home because the needs of the Marine Corps come first; or one day you are comfortable in your home/at your job/with your life and your husband comes home and says “get ready to move, we have orders”. As a spouse, you don’t question it, you don’t fight it, you just go with it.⠀
I think the hardest part for me has been this new season of parenthood while on an SDA. He works long, I mean LONG, hours, has overnight trips, leaves before we wake up and is home long after bedtime. I am solo parenting most of the time, and I feel terrible that he’s missing so many of Kane’s firsts. But one thing is for sure, this man is a great daddy, a great husband, and does everything he can to provide an amazing life for our growing family.⠀
As a military spouse I have learned that he will remain Semper Fidelis (always faithful), and I will remain Semper Gumby (always flexible). I love my Marine, I love being a military spouse, and I love the adventures this lifestyle has brought/is taking our family on.
Ohhhh yeah!!🤘🏼I’m headed to Mexico with the love of my life, coffee in hand, new jean jacket on point! 💃🏼 I am ready to go and have already been enlightened to so many things today I thought I might share 😆
#1 - You may be tempted to pack & prep the night before you leave but it’s SO worth it to spend all the extra time w your kiddos! 😍 (Even if it’s at IN-N-OUT at 11pm 🤣) You can sleep later.
#2 It’s ridiculous to overpack for a 3 day trip. But when you pack at 4am you just throw in ALL the things. Don’t overthink it 🤓
#3 . Even if you know you and your husband REALLY need the trip and you have set up everything for the kids to be taken care of at home you may still feel mom guilt. 😅 GO ANYWAY. Your kids will thank you later that you prioritized your marriage and self-care. 👊🏼 They will not thank you as you are saying good bye and leaving them there. 😜 GO ANYWAY.
#4 . Use bribery when necessary. Just sayin. 🤷🏼♀️
#5 . @danvalentine & I are committed to do this 3 day trip every January to celebrate what we have accomplished in the last year and to dream, plan, calendar and commit for the next 12 months. And to BE ALONE TOGETHER 🙌🏼❤️ Find what works for you and your spouse and make it sacred!
#6 . I love the idea of traveling in a romper and jacket but going to the bathroom is a circus act. 🤡
Mamas?! Ladies?! Any of this resonate for you?! 💕
This moment!!!! Just the most amazing feeling!! Do you remember how you felt when you turned to face your guests and your officiant announced you both as the new Mr and Mrs!!??? Does it feel like a blur or were you able to soak it in? It might have only been a year or two ago, it might be 15 or 40 years ago? However long ago it was, sit in the memory for a moment- and then go tell your partner about all the feels and what an amazing moment it was to be called their spouse. I promise you will make both of your days!
And tell me how it goes right here! 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻💓
5 1801 October, 2019
We’ve been home with Niles for over a week already... are we going to be parents who post pictures on time, probably not. But we will try!! Here’s one from the day we brought him home! #michaelandlauraphotography
We found out there’s a Croatian town with a 0% divorce rate. The tradition there is to clasp hands over a crucifix during your wedding vows. So we did. Our wedding mass was 3pm in a Friday, the same hour Our Lord died on the cross. ❤️
The more you give, the more fruitful your marriage will be. We’re always looking to the ultimate example Jesus gave to guide us. Paradoxically, we have pure joy when we do. The crucifix we said our vows over now hangs in our foyer, the first thing we see when we come home. 💜
I found found a note on my phone that I wrote during our engagement. 3.5 years later, it’s come true:
“Tulle and chantilly will usher us in,
Twinkle lights and tears.
Barbecue and warmth and favorite people. 💜
Our wedding will be beautiful, my love.
The celebration already dazzles me-
But may it speed our steps
To our Beloved on the cross. ❤️
We are married at the hour of sacrifice.
I will honor with my life
What I vow with my lips
Amongst champagne toasts and revelry. 💜
The most beautiful flowers
Are those with thorns.
And so through pain
I'll be more truly yours.”
The more we lay ourselves down for each other, the more our marriage grows. And that’s not something you’ll ever read in Cosmo, my friends.
❤️ @jackiefrancois and @bobby.angel give a beautiful, REAL picture of marriage in their episode of the Called and Caffeinated podcast. Hear it through the link in my bio or wherever fine podcasts live. Subscribe and stay a while. And please leave an iTunes review- getting love from my listeners makes my Valentine’s Day extra sweet! 🥰