So for obvious reasons I do not have a lot of my “party girl” pictures. After I left my husband, I too turned to alcohol as a release and numbing agent. This is a picture of me at 195 lbs my heaviest due to the constant drinking. #alcohol#workhardpartyharder#mentalhealth#depression Side note: I’ve been #sober for 17 days and counting!
Sex is not something to be ashamed of and STIs are a normal part of being sexually active. Getting tested should be part of everyday life, too.
Shame around STIs is, in large part, about society’s relationship with sex more broadly. STDs and STIs do not indicate promiscuity. Let me say it again- STIs AND STDs DO NOT INDICATE PROMISCUITY. This stigma is part of the problem and is misplaced, especially when you consider that it eliminates half the population from your dating pool.
We know there are a lot of stigmas associated with STIs. The truth is that most of them (bacterial and parasitic) are curable and those that aren't (viral infections) are manageable with the right treatment.
Normalizing these conversations will have an exceptionally positive impact. If we understand what we are getting into when we engage in sexual activities, we will have a better experience, more fulfilling relationships and healthier bodies.
"Recovery of any kind of mental illness is overwhelming and sometimes feels unbearable but it will be worth it in the end."
I have a confession to make. While I write things like this, I myself am in recovery. From an eating disorder but also from other mental struggles which I don't want to share online. And even though I try to encourage everyone who goes through a similar situation, I sometimes don't believe the words I share. Or better, I don't trust them. I tell you: You will make it.
At the same time, I don't even know if I myself will "make it". I try to do my best but sometimes I fail (which is okay and normal) and as a result, some really intrusive thoughts begin to scream inside of my head.
Especially at the moment, my mental health feels kind of unstable and although I've seen my therapist today, I still feel extremely stressed and confused. -
What I am trying to say is that you might read so many positive quotes on Instagram or online in general and all of this "stay positive"-talk can lead to the exact opposite: a really negative feeling. "Why can't I be positive? Why am I such a horrible person? What is wrong with me?"
Thoughts like these are likely to come up if you're struggling with your mental health but as you can see, behind these quotes and reminders are normal people who might be fighting with themselves as well. You are not alone even though it often feels like you are. -
If you have suicidal thoughts or if you're struggling with your mental health otherwise, please get professional help as soon as possible or at least talk to someone you trust (you can also dm me if you like). Stay strong guys, thank you for reading.
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0 015 January, 2020
Having a bit of a bad brain day today. I have up and down days and today is a bit of a downer. I have some things weighing me down that I need to deal with but when my brain is like this, I don't have the motivation or drive to do it. I completed a few jobs today but tonight, the kids are in bed, my pjs are on and I'm snuggling on the sofa with pup. Might do some of my activity book to distract my mind and hopefully help me sleep.
Lil personal post 💜
I’m getting real frustrated at the moment in my art because I feel my sketches have the life and style and mood I want and when I then translate them to digital with full detail and so forth it loses that feeling I really want. This piece specifically hit me with that feeling. It may well be my sense of perfectionism or just my tendency to find bad things in my developed artwork but it’s tough and I hope 2020 will bring more learning and development 💜
First things first - a huge thank you & debt of gratitude to @seankochmusic for giving the blessing to use his music in the podcast introduction. It fits nicely in between the introduction & the podcast itself. Check out his bands music, it is beyond uplifting! 🙏🕉️ Welcome to another episode. In this episode, Elle (@ellesnaturalwellness) & I discuss openly the low feeling we are experiencing in the present moment as we recorded. Each of us dealing with our own struggles, we have a raw, real & open conversation in order to inspire others to be open about their mental health. Speaking this openly proved to be really healing for us both, and we hope that others can open up about their own struggles and reduce the burden that they are feeling.
We also answer a question that came in after a listener heard last week's episode on Codependency. They asked how to stop the urge to rush in to fix another person. We share our own perspectives, and we also discuss how our attitude to our struggles can determine how we come out of them.
Thanks for listening.
Since I am reminding myself of these very important words every single day, I wanted to remind you as well. It's never too late for anything. Start now. 🙏🏼
1 215 January, 2020
𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭: my word for 2020
What does it mean to me to trust? Trust the universe. Trust others. Trust myself. Trust that everything will be okay. For me this will be a challenging feat this year, but I know where to start. There cannot be trust with a presence of fear, doubt, or guilt. Shedding these heavy words slowly, day by day through meditation, mindfulness, yoga, therapy, all the healing!... for when there is trust, there is peace. ☮️
Talking about #mentalhealth is still taboo in many cultures around the world. We asked people across 29 countries whether they thought #mentalillness is like any other illness. See where most people disagreed with this. There are regional differences. http://ow.ly/m7Kr50xWuuB
0 115 January, 2020
Little things you can do to connect to the universe, but what can you do to connect with people who are just like you?
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Okay....hear me out on this one. Baby/toddler snacks as low calorie snacks and something not filled with junk and crap you don't need.
In a pinch they work. I needed something small just so I'm not hangry by the time I get home, so i looked in my bag and saw one of this teething biscuits, so i ate one.
They aren't bad tasting. Very hint of flavour but taste more like a rice cake more than anything. Obviously I wouldn't grab these daily unless I wanted to top it with PB or almond butter but other than that, ill eat other stuff.
Self-soothing allows us to regulate our emotions and relieve anxiety autonomously. It’s a way of showing ourselves comfort and kindness before we become overwhelmed, helping us to calm the nervous system and settle the fight-or-flight response. Luckily, self-soothing is a skill, meaning anyone can learn it. Below are three steps if you want to try self-soothing next time you feel spiral-ly.
1. ADMIT that you are experiencing a moment of suffering (you might say to yourself “this is what stress feels like to me”). Become aware of any physical sensations in your body. Just noticing what is going on kickstarts the calming process.
2. ACKNOWLEDGE that suffering is a part of the human experience (you might say to yourself “other people have felt like this before”). This can help you to realise that you are not alone and that this moment will pass.
3. IDENTIFY what you can do in this exact moment to make yourself feel a little bit better (you might say to yourself “I accept that this moment is hard, so I choose to show myself love and kindness”). This can be any small, mindful action like going outside, getting off your phone—anything that will give you a breather.
These tips are based on a framework created by Kristin Neff, a UT Austin psychology professor, who has dedicated her career to the study of self-compassion.
Part 15 by Robert Ryman, 1993
The responses, DM’s, reposts, and recreations on my last post have me like 😱
I think the message really resonated with so many out there and it’s a good reminder for all of us to try and keep ourselves accountable on the way we think of ourselves 🌟
For me, that took years. I don’t see myself or think the things from the picture on the left (see my last post). But that didn’t happen over night 🙅🏼♀️ it took practice. I had to change not only the way I thought about myself, but change what was important to me
Right now you may be someone who looks in the mirror and only sees negatives. I’ve been there. But let me tell you, there are things you can do to change that
🌟 talk to someone about it. Get the feelings/doubts out there
🌟 recognize the doubts and acknowledge them
🌟 reframe your thinking about those doubts
🌟 tell yourself the new truths everyday
🌟 surround yourself with positive people and environment
It starts from within 💛
1 915 January, 2020
YASSS!! 😍 Loving this transparency about the importance of the foods we consume + mental health! Repost from @veggiepeggy •
When I decided I wanted to go to graduate school, I had a tough time deciding between dietetics and mental health. Both fields fuel my passion in connecting, and helping people. Yet, what ultimately led me to choose mental health counseling was in learning, and researching the science behind WHY we make the choices we make; and how we can optimize our overall wellness. Yes, food does play a huge part of our wellness. Science has shown what we feed our bodies affect the way we feel and even improve brain function. However, wellness is more than consuming the “right” foods. What consume our thoughts matter just as well. So as we continue on setting goals on what we eat, I pray that we are also mindful of what our hearts and minds consume as well. 💖 #mentalhealthawareness
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Congrats to @brett_lyons_davis for being the first in our little mini challenge to complete #31in31 putting us all to shame 😂 but he’s a cyclist so his legs can do it easier than others! I went out tonight and did a pitiful couple of miles to almost get me up to the 15 mile mark halfway through the month. Not worth pics and videos though haha!
Please donate on my JustGiving page www.justgiving.com/John-Stacey31 and hop over to @calmzone to see what I’m raising money for! Really great cause
It doesn’t matter if it’s a relationship or business. I’m paying attention to all strange things. So a man just called actually said I can "Google stalk him if I want” no that’s what my private investigator is for & it’s only tapped into when some weird or strange things happen. It’s called process of elimination. I don’t like anyone or have no crushes. You get yourself pulled in on a private investigation being weird. Hopefully he’s not on anything strange. But he didn’t introduce himself 1st. The area code threw me because I don’t do nursing in New York ...
Important things to remember. .
✨ You're allowed to change your plans.
✨ You don't have to be happy all the time.
✨ Showing emotions is healthy and okay.
✨ Authenticity ist better than perfection.
✨ You're amazing just the way you are.
🙌🏼 Taking a bath has been my go-to stress and anxiety reliever lately. I’ll hop in the bath twice a day if I need to + some happy music and journaling to get my mind out of a panic. It feels borderline impossible in the moment but it works. Try it! ✨
If we look for reasons to feel defensive, we’ll find them.
If we look for interactions that ignite our ego, we’ll find them.
If we look for excuses to give up, we’ll find them.
If we look for reasons why they are wrong, we’ll find them.
If we look for examples of the world being out to get us, we’ll find them.
We find what we look for.
If we look for reasons to be grateful, we’ll find them.
If we look for examples of the ways in which we are loved, we’ll find them.
If we look for excuses to be kind, we’ll find them.
If we look for reasons to listen, we’ll find them.
If we look for reasons to keep going, we’ll find them.
Our egos build a version of the world around us to make sense of who it thinks we are and who everyone else is. Then, our ego finds evidence to reinforce that version of the world.
Being intentional and knowing your why is key to passionately being you daily.
Hey all!👋🏼 Brittney Denson here, a soul on fire for serving. Born and raised Texas girl, wife and mom of two.
My professional background kickstarted in corporate staffing for accounting and administrative roles. My unshakeable desire to go above and beyond for my team and clients, led to an offer to step into the franchise owner’s role upon retirement. ✨
However, life led me and my husband to #AustinTexas .
Following my passion, I began modeling, multi-published, runway shows, including Austin’s Bridal Couture Week, to landing 2nd in Texas for @jetsetmag Cover Model contest. ✨
Catch me live modeling on Austin’s popular lifestyle tv show, @studio512tv , on your local @NBC, for boutique @lure_by_yf .
My modeling was designed to build a platform to shout from, bring focus, change, to one of the most common diseases that not many have heard of, #endometriosis . @theendochannel was born. ✨
2014 I took to social media sharing my endo journey publicly in efforts to spread awareness, hope, and direction for proper treatment. ✨
Tune in to The Endo Channel on FB, IG, & YouTube, where I also interview endo experts, and share how I found freedom, leading to my pain free life.
My journey led me into construction sales, where I quickly became top performer, and sales team manager. ✨
The desire to sell my husband’s new builds led me to become a licensed real estate agent. It feels like home, with residential construction being such a big part of my family’s life, I knew this would be a meaningful addition. ✨
Polished professional with an unshakeable desire to rise, personally and professionally, in efforts to serve my clients with compassion and respect.
As I grow my real estate business I will be financially fueling my vision, my network, The Endo Channel, in efforts to bring facts, direction, and even more growth within the endo community. 10+ years for souls to receive an accurate diagnosis is unacceptable, beyond time for change. Healing.
To the incredible soul reading this, I would be honored to connect for any and all of your real estate needs.✨ #styledbylure
2 415 January, 2020
1st, a man trying to control the relationship,marriage or situation. Can’t f’kn relax & can’t keep his hands off of you. Then he’s very jealous your smile drives him completely over the edge. I’m just not this type of woman naturally been adulting for a very long time. I’m not living stress out by no one change if you want I got an eraser.
„Mentale Gesundheit bedeutet für mich vor allem auch eins: es gibt mentale Krankheit. An Krankheit ist niemals jemand schuld, es ist nichts schwaches dabei sich eine Krankheit einzugestehen. Menschen tendieren immernoch stark dazu dieses Thema zu tabuisieren, dabei wirft man jemandem mit einer greifbaren Krankheit ja auch nicht vor sich mal nicht so anzustellen.
Meine jahrelange Depression fühlt sich an wie ich mir Alkoholismus vorstelle. Selbst wenn ich der Abwärtsspirale entsagt habe, fühle ich mich immer wie ein trockener Depressiver. Ich denke Depressionen sind etwas das man nie ganz ausheilen kann. Ich musste mir einfach eingestehen, dass es ein Teil von mir ist und dass es eine Krankheit ist. In meiner Familie sind psychische Erkrankungen verbreitet und ich schätze ich habe einfach die Anlagen dafür. Wenn man irgendwann anfängt zu begreifen was man da mit sich trägt wird es leichter damit zu leben. Es gibt gute Tage und schlechte, aber ich muss mir immer wieder vor Augen führen, dass es nie eine Phase gibt die ewig andauert.
Es hilft mir kleine Rituale zu wiederholen, wenn ich merke dass es mir schlechter geht, einfach Dinge von denen ich weiß, dass sie mich aus dieser Stimmung reißen. Das sind bei mir oft so banale Dinge wie einen Spaziergang machen oder duschen. Mit den Jahren ist es für mich viel einfacher geworden mit Depressionen zu leben, weil ich sie nicht mehr aus meinem Leben verbanne. Ich höre auf meinen Körper und sehe Warnsignale. Wenn ich eine Auszeit brauche, nehme ich sie mir.“
Who comes to mind? Sometimes Self-care only offers temporary relief to the deep-rooted challenges many of us face, and often it can be its own form of commodified labour that becomes an another additional task, another thing on the list that can make us feel more stressed. So what does the alternative look like? What is community care?
Ultimately, community care is a commitment to contributing in a way that leverages our own relative privilege while balancing our own needs. It’s trusting that your community will have you when you need support, and knowing you can be trusted to provide the same.
Community care means showing up; it means that when you find yourself in the position of being able to give more than you need to receive, you do so. Depending on who you are and your strengths, this might mean receiving messages from someone who needs to be comforted and heard, cooking a meal for friend who hasn’t been looking after themselves, reaching out to a friend who is lonely, helping a friend out of an abusive relationship, supporting a friend financially, volunteering and so on.
Of course we have to look after ourselves in order to best support others (a bit like the “attend to your own oxygen mask first before helping others” analogy) - but if you’re able and feeling ready, what areas of community care can you contribute to? #wegotyou
29 2,24615 January, 2020
I remember someone once saying that -bad moments don’t need to make a bad day.
The next morning, I walked to work and a lorry quickly drove through a massive, dirty puddle, drenching me from head to toe.
And I remembered ‘a bad moment does not need to make a bad day’. Whereas I would have usually let that moment dictate my mood for the entire day, I chose not to. I pressed the reset button.
It made me realise how little we can control in life, but how much we can actually dictate our attitude.
There were many rough moments of today. But it was not a bad day. I refused to let it be bad. I washed, washed, washed. Cleaned, wiped, juggled, felt torn and tired. But we laughed, lazed, cuddled, smiled. We slowed the heck down.