Needed this wisdom today 🧘🏼♀️ When you spend a lot of your energy trying to salvage and repair a relationship you didn't break, while being gaslighted for EVERYTHING you become exhausted emotionally and mentally. I'm having to learn to take care of me and not beat myself up for other people's issues they try to push on me. #therapy#quotestoliveby#sundays#wordstoliveby
“The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do.” ~ Kobe Bryant
I’m always aware of how odd it is to feel grief at the passing of a celebrity, who we’ve never known personally, and yet how it feels so normal at the same time. This, I believe, is the power of social media and proof of how interconnected our lives have become. We are a global community. .
So like many today, I was sorry to hear of Kobe Bryant’s tragic death. At 41 years of age, he was far too young to go and had so much life to live in front of him. .
But he leaves behind a memorable legacy of someone who lived their life with passion; celebrating triumphs and gritting their teeth through struggles. And in the many “Kobe quotes” that are making their way onto Insta, Facebook, Twitter etc today, there is bound to be something which strikes a chord - the above is mine. ❤️
Destination Addiction is a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is somewhere else. We suffer, literally, from the pursuit of happiness. We are always on the run, on the move, and on the go. Our goal is not to enjoy the day, it is to get through the day. We always have to get somewhere else first, before we can relax and before we can savor the moment. But to find, we never get there. There is no point of arrival. We are permanently dissatisfied. The feeling of success is continually deferred. .
Our busy lives throw so much across our paths that can easily, and often does, distract us from living in the present. How much of your day is spent thinking about some event in the past or something in the future—tomorrow, next week, or even next year—that hasn’t even happened yet? And how much of your day is spent in the NOW?
Living in the moment takes practice, but when you learn how to live this way, you will lead a fuller life and appreciate the beauty in every activity every second of the day.
🖤Tips to help you live in the NOW🖤
1. Be present and remove distractions
2. Appreciate the small things in life (stop to smell the roses)
3. Smile more often
4. Perform random acts of kindness
5. Give thanks
6. Don’t worry!
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Do things at your speed and what you’re comfortable with. It’s still beautiful to get married at 40, it’s still amazing to buy a house at 40 it’s ok to take some time off school and graduate later. We are all different and there is no “right age” to accomplish something.
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do you know that what we think really does affect what we do? a joyful mind is a joyful heart. I know it's never easy to stay positive all the time, but as long as you try your best to stay in it, you'll do great. may joy be with you always.
we all need a bit of space - moment for reflection. like the waves, having a moment of retreat, builds more strength in what we’re doing. in our work, our loves, our friendships, our health, our flexibility, our connections, our creativity. trust these natural cycles. you know when it’s time to retreat. you know when it’s time to be mighty 🌊
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🌚As you know by now I am constantly going inward and reflecting, peeling back the layers. I take opportunities presented to me to do the deep work // on Friday I was invited to go within in a way I didn’t expect. I went to a dentist appointment and being a new dentist I had a set of xrays taken. As each picture was taken I was shown all of the metal plates and screws in my mouth. 11 years ago I had reconstructive jaw surgery and in that I was left with screws, plates and a butchered gum line. This was the third surgery to heal my jaw. Alongside the surgeries I was also prescribed pain killers and muscle relaxers for a good 9 years of my life which were also very formative years 17-26.
As I sat in the chair and watched each picture pop up my body began to freeze. I felt my voice disappear, I was watching myself shrink away. February will be 11 years since the last surgery and yet all of the sudden I felt myself shrink into the 17 year old version of myself who was in pain before the pills and before the first surgery. I felt myself sitting in the doctors office allowing my parents to speak up for me because I couldn’t express more then being in pain. The dentist and I went on to chat, he had never treated someone who had went though my procedures and shortly after I was off.
On my walk home I found myself fading into tears, I couldn’t hold them back I was overwhelmed with sadness. I arrived home and I sat with the experience. Being consciously sober at this point in my life I reflect in a different way then I have before. I can deeply feel into the emotion of each moment and pinpoint them more then I have in the past, and all of the sudden I realized the feeling I had in that chair was that I was not worthy! I didn’t feel worthy, wow! I didn’t feel worthy of being heard and understood. For so many years I had numbed my feelings and here in this moment I realized I don’t feel worthy and in that I wasn’t fully loving myself. I sat in that moment loving myself, each part from my teen years until now. The girl who used substances to numb to the girl who has gotten sober and taken off all of the bandaids. Cont below
Leave a “YES” below if you’ve made this mistake before👇So often we confuse chemistry for compatibility. Because something looks good and feels good in the moment we predict that things will be perfect. Chemistry often over shadows other weaknesses in a relationship and a person because the “halo effect” takes over! We convince ourselves that the person cares, is affectionate and loving because of the excitement and speak we experience. Of course both are important for a long term relationship. Chemistry is hard to find, compatibility is hard to build.