Reflection is beautiful.
I made a list in the beginning of 2019 titled, “My Baggage To Process” and I have now officially attacked everything on the list, which gave me a breathless moment of unbelievability. These types of topics make me feel like an idiot to write about but damn am I morphing. The uncomfortable tension in that word I feel it down to my atoms where I don’t know the answers, but I don’t feel so lost. For a long time now I’ve felt lost, I mean well into my childhood. All these overlapping pieces in my life; muddling my image, completely like this image, were a weapon against myself and not a solution. A great therapist, supportive friends and a lil grass changed my life, but I had to want it. Really fucking want it because I’m good at lying to myself. I settled for bad boundaries because I felt my inherent self was a disappointment. Admitting your faults is hard, but I’m telling you reflection is beautiful. I look at my reflection and I’m beautiful. (So cheesy, barf, but dead serious) #beaplanet
Maybe it’s no coincidence that I finished reading Sapiens this month, completed an altruistic-living intensive workshop this weekend, and it’s MLK day today. A literal and figurative interpretation of “survival of the fittest” or “dog-eat-dog world” seems possibly evolutionarily-driven, supporting a competitive drive. Does someone else have to lose so I may win, or have to be wrong so I’m right; what do we have to gain in a world like that? I am generally a positive and upbeat person, and I know I have my moments where I regress. In those instances, I notice that my automatic way of being is to overload my calendar (and my mind) in my day-to-day and to micromanage, which has a potential outcome of not being wholly engaged, being controlling, or at worst manipulative. Within my family sphere, I may cringe at the idea of owning up to my errors and position myself to be in the right as a protective mechanism. These actions won’t serve me or the world at-large. My health suffers as a consequence (I’m under the weather, again!), and I close off the possibilities of interconnectivity, presence, and authentic joy in these circumstances. I aspire to slow down, act instead “react”. Giving is just as rewarding as receiving, and we deserve the opportunities for both. I challenge myself, and you: commit to take on what my initially feel uncomfortable, contribute to preserve our loving community and natural environment, be present, and accept and be a generator of gratitude in our lives 😊
Take responsibility for the life you want to create. ✨
One thing i will say is that I have NEVER COMPROMISED my happiness and values in a career or “day job”. If it didn’t tickle my soul or align with my values - I let it go. Is that the easiest thing to do? No.
That means constantly evaluating 🤔 yourself, values & constructing a life around what YOU want. Making things work for YOU. That means striving every single day to make CONSCIOUS decisions. We’re always changing and evolving. For some, that’s the scariest thing. To be unsure of what the future hold for you. Something that may hold true for you now, may not resonate 3 years from now AND THAT’S OKAY! I ask myself the hard questions every single day. Does this still light me up inside? Are there any values that don’t hold true for me anymore? It can be scary, especially when you’ve reached a level of comfort within your realm. What’s life without constant change and evolution? Don’t be afraid to ask yourself those hard questions. They’re life changing. 💖💖💖
A lot went through my mind as I was sitting in a hospital in North Carolina trying to support my boy @dougbaker15 from a gnarly motorcross accident during the filming of a documentary we were making/still are! Also the question still stands, who decides the color schemes of these places!?
Revisit the episode via www.hauntinglybeautifulpodcast.com OR your favorite streaming service friends 🤙🤢🤙
In order for any relationship to work with others, the relationship with OUR selves is indeed way more important above them all. Do you know your likes? Your dislikes? Desires? Weaknesses? Toxic habits? Gifts? I challenge everyone to never stop dating yourself, even after marriage. We evolve. We change. We grow. That’s being human. Get. To. Know. YOU!
Allow yourself to be in your own nature...holding up a mask(s) will tire you. Clinging to pride will enable judgment to castrate you. Social conditioning will program you to sin against yourself. Shame and guilt will congest you with spiritual phlegm. Ignoring your intuition will confine you into a hellish loop. Disregarding your own light, will give space for other spirits to find residence in your vessel. But understand the "darkness", your shadow, isnt your enemy. Don't run away. Don't fight it, dance with it. Flow and understand it. Youll need to to dive deeper within. See your reflection in everything around you. Provide yourself the space and opportunity to be both wild and still. Dissolve judgment from your consciousness. What remains is...something you have to experience for yourself.
In the world of business, entrepreneurship and leadership, executive presence is key. It helps establish or secure your position, reputation, and how you are perceived. It can be an indicator of readiness for your next position. Some of the advice I’ve seen points to conformity of a general look. Though when done properly, you can have your own distinct style while still exuding executive presence.
Nonetheless, every once in a while you have to let your hair down and just be. And that's exactly what I did on my trip to the #GrandCayman . Letting go and just being allows me the space to reflect and shed what’s no longer working. It affords me the space to adopt new ways that will work. And it lets me try news looks 🤪
When was the last time you let your hair down? Post a pic and tag me @FlowAdept. #AllowingTheFlow#AdeptFlow#FlowAdept #Reflection#PersonalDevelopmentCoach#CoachingTips#GrowthMindset #ExecutivePresence#ConsciousLeaderhip#Intentionality
The beauty of this conference is spectrum of views offered to and for everyone. 📸Ms. Kayla and today's Dance Scholars photographed here who spoke to the truth about Black Dancing Bodies, the lack of appreciation for these differences and the mis or under representation rather their aesthetic.
Dance Professor, Jazelynn Goudy @ambitiousjaze and her colleagues took us on an inquisitive journey to the other side of Body Image where the Thick, Vuluptuous, Round, Heavy and or Full Figured Women are celebrated and have a say so about their bodies and what the future in Dance looks like for them in studio, on stage, in advertisement and beyond.
Our Young Scholar, Ambar @itssambar felt that she could relate to this topic on a few levels. Click the link in our bio to read about her thoughts for yourself.
Blog Post Reflection
I love this quote. It resonates with me now more than ever as I dive into the unknown. I am solo tripping to my happy place. Although I am alone, I don’t feel lonely (yet) 😂. Ever since I was little, I wanted to belong, to fit in... the core of which to be accepted and loved. For a large part of my growing years, this was something I grappled with. Belonging... at what cost? To be something I’m not? So that you like me? I was ridiculed and labelled as ‘different’ throughout primary and high school. Only in my 20’s did I really start to connect with others that I truly wanted in my life. Now in the depth of my 30’s I am so loved up by myself, deeply accepting all of me- that I no longer feel the NEED to belong. Tell me to conform and my soul screams, no!!!! I just want to be me. To be the highest, loving and colourful version of myself. Love me, hate me... I don’t really care. Because I’m sending you love and blessings for all the gifts of wisdom you have shown to me- thank you!!! Today I belong to me, to my friends, families, my work, community and the universe. Today I am also free (literally) belonging to nobody or nowhere at all. 💖💖💖 Jen