By popular demand and by God's help, our Let's Talk Saturday is back.
This is how it works
I am available to talk with you, advice you or just be a listening ear on whatever issues that may be giving you sleepless nights and disturbing your life. From relationship issues to marriage matters, school wahala, parents palava or friends brouhaha.
You just name it and I'm there for you.
Just type "Call me" in the comment box, and I'll be in your DM to get your contact.
You could also DM me with your contact and the next call you'll be getting will be from me.
PS: You must have something you would like to discuss. No frivolity allowed, please.
PPS: Guess who is almost done with her Life Coach Certification? Whoop! Whoop!
It’s not true that he’s emotionally unavailable
He’s just NOT AS available to you as you would prefer... And you like that sh*t
It turns you on...a lot!
And that’s good and natural.
When it becomes disastrous is when you put all of your eggs in one basket and you make him, your Womb Choice™️, your sole focus!
That’s when love addiction can derail you!
So, what’s the solution?
Understand his specific role in your life and honour that...and ENJOY the rest of your life with other men and women who love and celebrate you!
Womb Choice d*ck is very important to me! It’s a MUST HAVE!!!! And I’ll be enjoying him this week. 😉
That being said...my Support Choice is also tremendously valuable to me...in different ways!
I’ve talked to countless married women who love their Support Choice husband...yet deeply LUST after their Womb Choice boyfriend!
There’s nothing wrong with any of this.
It’s time that we, collectively, start telling the truth about female sexuality. #LoveWitch 🖤 —
Want to attract more quality TIME with your Womb Choice?
Book a session with me here:
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Om - “the sound that nature makes when it’s in harmony itself”
This is one of my favourite definitions of Om - the Primordial Sound.
You can use Om - chant it, listen to it (I can send you some songs if you want - PM me), or you can find another sound healing technique that resonates with YOU, beloved one.
When you use sound healing, and this sacred syllable, you invite more harmony into your life.
More balance. More flow. More unity with the divine plan.
You proclaim your oneness with: Divine Will, Divine Power, and Divine Love.
The harmonious vibrations you create begin to ripple out of you. They magnetize, and amplify, allowing your beautiful sound healing practice to ripple out and create positive change in the world.
When you increase harmony in your life you increase:
So, beloved one - embrace sound healing.
Start right now with one resounding: Om!
(@amberalchemy was using sound healing on me throughout the healing process captured in this image. Thank you, Great One.)
Blessings to you today, beloveds!
Yours in Self-Realization,
I love a homemade Christmas!
A friend of mine made this. It’s one of my favorite lines from the movie Elf.
Singing, dancing, and listening to happy, uplifting music is one of my recommendations for anxiety and depression, especially for kids.
Music has an effect on our mood.
It’s a great tool to support a calm atmosphere.
In my sons elementary school you can hear classical music in the halls.
On his birthday I attended lunch and Kenny G was streaming in the cafeteria.
What a difference it made in their behavior compared to visiting his old school!
Dancing is not only good exercise it boosts your endorphins. It’s a feel good experience that releases stress.
I have different music playlists and stations I like to listen to depending on my mood or the mood I’d like to be in. Lately I’ve been listening to the station Chill Electronic on Alexa. Check it out for a cool vibe.
What’s you’re go to music for an uplifting feeling?
“You can’t just give up on someone because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships are not great because they have no problems. They are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.” – Unknown
It is not just about caring but also about wanting to be happy together with that person. Accepting them for who they are and how they handle hard times. ❤️ Crappy situations are all around us and if we lack commitment, they are what break relationships.
Of course, we are not talking about abusive or restricting relationships here. If that is the case, no matter how much you care about your abuser, you must give up on them for your own sake. 🙏
I haven't been "working" lately since I've been on vacation.
I've been on a road trip with my boyfriend through North Carolina. It's for fun but we're also trying to see where we want to live next 💙
I usually get super anxious about plans but I've been going with the flow or at least trying to. I figure wherever we need to be, we'll get there and be guided to it. We're still making plans but if something doesn't go as planned then it's okay. .
This way of thinking helps me relax a ton whereas I'm usually pretty anxious. It's releasing the pressure of "I need to do all the things right now". Plus my boyfriend moves like a turtle that just smoked weed ( joking and I love you so much if you're reading this 😘) in the morning so him just being him tests my patience especially since I'm more like an Energizer bunny. (Projector and Generator in human design). .
So I learn to relax a little and he learns to speed up a little and adhere to the deadlines we do have, like checking out of the Airbnb on time. -And also, you can see just from that dynamic how we were put in each other's lives to learn from each other. Yes I bug the shit out of him sometimes ( picture me running around the living room with our dogs howling at them and laughing while he's literally sitting in the middle of it zenned out on the couch just ignoring it and trying to relax and play video games 😂) and he bugs the shit out of me sometimes but I've learned so many things from him just being him and I am so grateful for that. 💕 .
It's a learning process. If you reframe your view to "life is a learning process" instead of "I need to have everything figured out" it will lift a lot of weight off of you. ✨✨
When your clients send you the most incredibly heart-warming feedback!! So many women come to me because they're fed up of arguing and fighting with their partners. They're tired of not feeling heard, seen, and valued. They've tried everything and nothing has worked. They want to be in a relationship that makes them feel alive and inspired...one that is vibrant, safe, sexy, and supportive... Don't we all?! Women come to me for this kind of support in their marriages and long-term relationships, but what they get is
m u c h
m o r e...
☑️ I feel respected, valued, and wanted in my relationship again - I can communicate my needs;
☑️ My confidence has massively increased - I finally feel good enough and worthy;
☑️ I feel a sense of peace, calm, and happiness again in my marriage;
☑️ I can understand myself now - why I feel, think, and behave the way I do and this has been magic in saving my relationship;
☑️ I feel deeply and intimately connected to my partner and MYSELF - we are reigniting that spark;
☑️ I love my daily self-loving practices we have cultivated - I know how to nurture myself now.
These are some of the shifts these incredible women have experienced as a result of committing to themselves and this is the power of my programme that combines Therapy AND Coaching.
Take a minute to think about your relationship now. Do you want to feel:
a) more connected?
b) desired more?
c) like I can express my needs more clearly?
d) like I have more confidence and self worth?
e) like I understand myself better?
Comment below: a, b, c, d, or e?!
We had some technical difficulties which resulted in a late upload! But the commentary continues on #DearFutureLove as @DeuceDot shares about marriage, self Love, and divorce as a millennial... Watch PART TWO of our three-part Q&A, streaming today! #LinkInBio
Last weekend was awesome!!! First graduation was on Saturday in that city called Lagos. Dreams come true...I am a Certified Mental Health and Addiction Therapist yoo!!! Please follow my practice @blisstherapy.ng to access psycho help, tips and interventions as need be. .
Second graduation was on Sunday in Abuja. I am a TIMFA USA Certified Marriage Mentor and also Master Mentor. Now this makes me glad!! Marriage and Relationship coaching is my passion; it’s what I have done since 2014 and now I get to do it bigger and better.
So that’s 3 certifications at once!!! My life has changed and I’m about to change yours!!!! Funmi Olubakin is your #relationshipCoach#marriageMentor#therapist#confidant#wiseInspirer#voiceOfHope#coach#constantFriend#Help
Partnership is the best part of any relationship and selfishness kills partnership.
Forgiveness is key though, if I can accept my wrongs and I am willing to change and do better, then please, forgive. Meanwhile, there will be absolutelynothing to apologize for or to forgive if we can't "communicate" too. So, when I said, the relationship ends at the point where partners decide to stop talking, its very true!
IN Order For Anyone To Truly LIVE, One NEEDS To Be Able To FORGIVE. Because You Cannot LIVE Without Being Able To FORGIVE. ▪️What do you need to forgive yourself for in order to really start living? ▪️What do you need to forgive others or someone else for in order to move on with your life? ▪️What keeps holding you back from moving forward?
Now Let go of it and forgive, so that you can Live and not just LIVE, but LIVE YourBestLife4Ever Starting Today ❤
It's catch up day in the Big Brand Breakthrough party pad! 💥
What that means for YOU is that if you've been watching from the outside this week...
If you've been feeling a bit of FOMO looking at all the a-has I've been sharing...
If you're secretly wanting a big brand breakthrough of your own...
It's not too late. You can join us today, and binge watch the workshops in time for tomorrow's live coaching call (where you can get all your questions AND get MY eyes on YOUR brand).
The link is in my bio.⚡
Have you noticed how some people make you want to be better and others just bring out the worst in you? Always go for the first type ❤
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You have all it takes to achieve your biggest dream.You are stronger than you even know. Don't wait for the biggest and the finest things to come your way before trying.
Start from where you are with what you have. No matter how hard it is or how slow you feel you are moving, know that the pace is not a problem but sitting still is a terrible TRAP.
💎Who is Imam Hussein?
💓who is this hussain whom the whole world is crazy about?!
⚔️What has happened so massive on Ashura in Karbala?
📣O people of the world know that I am the imam al-Qَaem 📣O people of the world know that I am the sword that takes revenge 📣O people of the world know that my grandfather Hussain was martyred while he was thirsty 📣O people of the world indeed I am the son of Hussain whose Holy body was left on the soil while it was uncovered 📣O people of the world indeed my grandfather Hussain was trampled out of spite
Imam Hussain was Prophet Muhammad 's grandson. After 50 years of Prophet Muhammad's demise, (in time of Imam Hussain), Yazid was the ruler. A cruel corrupted man who knew nothing about Islam and intended to establish a monarchy under the name of Islam. he asked for Imam Hussain's oath of allegiance in order to obtain reputation in society. Imam Hussain refused to do so in order to save the society from a cruel monarch. Therefore Yazid equipped his army to kill Hussain and his family . Yazid's army besieged Hussain and his family members in Karbala desert in Iraq .The army didn't let them drink water for 3 days. But Hussain, his beloved brother Abbas and his companions didn't surrender and kept fighting while they were thirsty. They were all martyred but their resistance disclosed the real face of Yazid and defeated him finally. We still mourn and commemorate them after 1400 years. because Imam Hussain and his 72 companions were brave men who fought evil for justice .Brave men belong to all times and all ages. May God bless them .
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It's the "worrying about those who don't" part that'll kill you. 😔 That's where the hurt lives. That's where the self-induced suffering goes down -- where you're just perpetuating cycles of self-rejection and abandonment. Wondering why they don't like you, why they aren't choosing you, why are they that way? Why can't they be different? Could you be different? Better? Could you have made it all different and better in some impossible way? Could you MAKE them choose you? And HOW??
All those spare moments (or days/years on end) you spend analyzing/unpacking/obsessing over someone who isn't actively adding to your life CANNOT BE GOTTEN BACK. And it doesn’t even get you anywhere closer to what you want. It won’t bring you closer to them, and it doesn’t get you any closer to you.
Really sit with this because it’s big. Your time and your energy are all you have.💥 These are truly non-renewable resources. And you're treating them like dollar bills you'll happily throw out the window towards someone who (in not actively, consistently choosing you) is showing you and telling you they aren’t for you.
Keep your dollar bills, honey. Reclaim your time. Protect your energy. Save and spend them on nourishing activities and good, kind people who don't make you feel like you're hard to love. And if that means you're alone and just with yourself for awhile (even a long while), GREAT. Perfect, actually. You get to practice being whole all by yourself, and actively consistently choosing yourself, until you inevitably intersect with with the best possible person imaginable. ♥️
Choose people who choose you. And let go of anyone who doesn’t, can’t, or won’t.
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Nothing is more attractive than peace of mind.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When we’re going through difficult times, though, it’s often the first thing we lose. Peace is replaced with fear.. Anxiety.. Hopelessness.. and we have no idea how to get it back.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But - we can.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If we choose to take the right steps, like choosing good decisions over bad ones, like searching within ourselves instead of in a bottle of wine, like focussing on what we have instead of what we don’t, we can find the peace we’re missing - the peace that turns our partners on, the peace that attracts people to us - that attracts us to us.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I love this photo for many reasons:
1. It looks like I’m drowning Sam and he looks like a helpless seal 🤣.
2. We were having fun 😃.
3. I was embodying my body 🥰. .
How you feel in your body, how you view her and talk to her filters into other areas of life especially intimacy.
I am no longer allowed to shame or criticize her in front of my husband because frankly it doesn’t do anything for him and it feeds a negative thought cycle.
How do you experience YOUR body? Let’s get real here & end on something SHE has done for you. .
I created a guide to loving your body RIGHT NOW because I wouldn’t be good friend to you if I kept all this info a secret.... it’s full of exercises and journal prompts that have helped me and it’s FREE (also no gym time or diets included). You can download it through the link in my profile. It’s about time you start loving you. ❤️
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I took myself on a date and here is what I learned : ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1. The questions you ask your partner should also be the ones you ask yourself : “what’s new with you?” “How has your week been?” “Have any fun adventures coming up?” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. In life, we tend to focus a lot on our work, partners, friends, family and other outside commitments that we forget to check in on ourselves. Make time for you. Stay your own best friend.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3. You don’t need anyone to take you somewhere you’ve been wanting to go - take yourself! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
4. Remind yourself that you’re valuable and desirable and any other thing you’d like to feel. Don’t forget to pay yourself a compliment! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
5. Wear the shoes. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I’ve been there myself. I accepted sorry ass excuses and less-than behavior as a standard for what I should receive from my partner.
I’m grateful for learning and healing and knowing that I should be in a reciprocal relationship. It wasn’t until I truly learned this that the caliber of men I started dealing with became much more substantial.