Why is it so difficult? Why is so difficult for many of us to love ourselves, accept who we are completely, and be self-compassionate? I am constantly on a journey to step in my own power and accept and love Sabrina.
I am grateful for all of the resources in my life that allow me to remember to put myself first! To fill my own cup, to give to myself and stand for my own beauty and power. I love my light and what I have to offer the world 🔥
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We all have good days, weeks, months, years. And we all have bad ones. It’s normal to go through phases. Loving yourself intentionally is a practice, it helps build coping skills for when shit gets real and hard. It is a process of learning how to acknowledge and shift your own destructive behaviors and mindset. And it’s a process for everyone. ✌️❤️💪
UNPLUG 🙉 I realize how affected I am by technology. Are you?!? I uncontrollably- seriously out of control- check Facebook, linked in who viewed me, dating apps, instagram.
I don’t wake up to it but gosh it’s hard so get still and focus on the good stuff with the road runner fucked a hamster brain that’s taken over my mind. Scandalous?!? I hate feeling like I can’t stop but I can’t stop. So I’m starting off the weekend with a scroll free Saturday after this post where I will give up all dopamine giving apps or websites.
Leave a comment if you’ll join me!
I want to see our minds will go without knowing what everyone else is doing. I also want to feel the entirety of the pain, fun, loneliness, awe, excitement without having the buffer of getting likes to make it better or having to take a photo of something that takes me out of the moment.
Like cooking, reading, writing, bike riding, netflixing bc i never do, watching the waves, looking at the garden that my roommates have cultivated.
I did this in NYC on weekends and I felt the release I was looking for... so, I promise I’ll be back but for now, almost totally analog. Love you! 😘
It used to be hard to catch me genuinely smiling... I was so used to living in shame and fear, believing that my physical and mental ailments deemed me undeserving of joy. It is time to put an end to this mindset.
Self-acceptance is the key to be flawsome!
Embrace your limitations whole heartedly, whether it is about your body features, body weight, chronic diseases, your failures or your nature, BECAUSE IT IS YOURS.
Grit: a tough sense of spirit, the grind in spite of the obstacles, the guts to do what it takes to see a vision through.
If you’re scrolling through social media
dreaming + not doing
I need you to stop for a moment and ask yourself if what you’re doing in this exact moment is getting you to where you wish you’d be tomorrow.
And then I need you to make the choice to stop blaming someone else other than yourself for your current situation.
I need you love yourself enough to go after the life you knew you were designed to live.
And after that, I need you to help the next person struggling with
and dreaming + not doing
And show them grit.
Because the world doesn’t need excuses.
It needs risk-takers, challengers, doers + not just dreamers.
It needs gritty people like the one you know you can be.
Reposted from @ninanoci.id Alooha! 🌻🌻
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Girls 101: Self Acceptance & Self Respect
📆 Minggu, 15 Maret 2020
⏰ 09.00 - 11.00 (sesi untuk anak-anak)
⏰ 11.00 - 12.00 (sesi untuk orangtua)
🏠 Silamo Creative Hub.
Jln. Sonosewu Baru No. 30, Sanggrahan, Ngestiharjo, Kasihan, Bantul
(Google Maps: Silamo)
Apa itu Girls 101?
Girls 101 adalah serial workshop untuk anak perempuan mulai usia pra remaja sampai remaja, yang membahas segala sesuatu tentang menjadi perempuan dari sisi penguatan dan pengembangan karakternya. Untuk seri perdana ini, kami akan membahas mengenai Self Acceptance & Self Respect untuk anak perempuan yang duduk di kelas 5, 6 dan 7 (1 SMP).
Kenapa self acceptance dan self respect? Kebanyakan dari kita melewati masa remaja dengan rasa tidak percaya diri dengan tubuh, terutama pada perubahan yang terjadi saat memasuki masa puber. Melalui workshop ini kami ingin mengajak untuk menyadari bahwa tiap perempuan itu berbeda, unik dan memiliki waktunya sendiri. Kami ingin mengajak untuk menerima perubahan pada tubuh saat puber dan menghargainya.
Fasilitatornya adalah Mbak Indiah Wahyu Andari. Seorang pegiat isu kekerasan terhadap perempuan dan anak, konselor psikologi yang banyak menangani kasus terkait dengan perempuan, serta saat ini masih menjabat sebagai Manajer Pendampingan di Rifka Annisa.
Terbatas untuk 10 anak.
Untuk pendaftaran, klik link di bio yaa.
Sampai ketemu! 🌈
Just over here putting my story into an experience so women can heal. All I desire is to create the world that wasn’t there for me when I needed it the most. To be the woman I desperately searched for on google and could never find. Into day two of my Naked Awakening Facilitator training!
There are ten women out here right now creating magic. All such unique women, each person shares an individual and very different journey, yet all of us with one united vision.
It’s time for the woman to love and accept all parts of the self. The beauty and the mess.
The quiet and the wild.
The “too much-ness” and the “not enough-ness.”
The ego mind and the inner cheerleader.
All of her, exactly as she is. Perfect, whole and complete ~ just not finished. 🧘🏻♀️🦋
Do you have a hunger for more? Do you make yourself wrong for that--telling yourself not to “get ahead of yourself” or to “be realistic”? Let’s look at the paradox of how we can love our lives as they already are, yet also hunger for more, and expand our desires without the guilt trip.⠀
Listen in here, https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/hunger-for-more⠀
⠀ #linkinprofile 👆
1 111 hour ago
‘Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognized yourself as a friend.’
I am re-reading, ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ for the third time (minus the countless times I have seen the movie). This time I am dissecting it, getting to the marrow of Gilbert’s love of language, her heat of spiritual passion, and finding out just why I love it so.
So many times over it still speaks to me and the spiritual journey that most of us take in our lifetime. If we are lucky we take it out of interest but most of us begin the journey when we are faced with extreme and unchangeable heartache, when a proverbial mirror is held up to our noses and the universe stands firmly, holding it there asking us to ‘look here and tell me what you REALLY see.’ This quote, read so many times I could recite it, always strikes me as though it were my first time, my eyes virginous to its impact. ‘In an unguarded moment...you recognized yourself as...a friend.’ Tell me, what was the last kind thing your internal dialogue said to you? Was she happy to see you? Did your reflection have that unbridled exuberance that you feel when you see your bestie for the first time in months or years of being separate?
Do you see her ever? The friend who knows you best looking back at you through the mirror as you floss your teeth?
Today, tomorrow, or sometime in the near future I want you to try it. Take a moment to look deep into the eyes of your reflection. Get uncomfortable if that’s what it takes. Just wait and look and see ‘her’, the you that the world admires and loves. The you that just wants you to finally soften and see her without the incessant negative chatter of your reptilian brain.
Look for as long as you can into her eyes, the girl you admire and long for when you are miles and years apart.
Disarm and unguard yourself and let yourself recognize her, your friend.
Smile at her in your mirror today - I bet you that she’ll smile right back, grateful to finally be truly seen.
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If I think about my own body image journey I would say that it hasn’t always been an easy ride. I have fallen into the trap of comparing myself to others, overtraining and under fueling to manipulate my appearance to what I think I should look like
So where am I today? Well, I feel pretty comfortable in my own skin. I accept that I don’t look perfect but I don’t look bad either. There are parts of my body I love and other parts that aren’t my favourite but here’s the thing, that’s totally ok!
We all have insecurities and if you say you don’t you’re probably 🤥 It’s just a part of being human, it’s how we are conditioned. If you accept that you will probably never feel 100% comfortable in your body then the pressure is off and the power is back in your own hands. Sometimes you leave the house feeling 💯 and other times you look in the mirror and see a potato staring back at you 🙈
We are not just our physical appearance. We are made up how well we can write, the books we read, our thoughts, our actions, our ambition, the way we make people feel, the things we accomplish, the art we paint, the races we run, the jokes we tell
I never want to live mediocre and settle for less because I feel I don’t compare to what I or others THINK I should look like
Sit in the uncomfortable, accept it for what it is and take the power back into your own hands ❤️
𝗪𝐄 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐎𝗪𝐍 𝗪𝐎𝐑𝐒𝐓 𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐂
It does matter if it's about our appearance(face or body), our parenting (I yelled, they hate me, omg we ordered dinner again), our performance at work (did I do that right, was it fast enough, did I screw up!?), the list could go on. We are our own worst critic.
This is your reminder tonight that 𝐘𝐎𝐔 are doing a great job, so give yourself a break and show yourself a little love.
We talk about a balanced diet, work/life balance, balancing acts. Balance is talked about a lot but how many of us are good at it? One challenge is that balance is subjective based on our circumstances and individual needs. While there is no one-size-fits-all formula, we can attempt to find balance by testing the waters to see what balance means to us. I find that I’m more aware of the need for balance when I’m out of balance. Some quick remedies that help me get back in balance are: exercise, focus on personal hobbies, and time in nature. What are ways you find balance?
Make this your affirmation as you head into the weekend. What are you proud of that you accomplished this week? Make a mental note of it, and give yourself the credit you deserve. Go ahead; say it out loud: "Job well done, sis!"👍🏾❤
SHOUT OUT! ❤️
People are just incredible. It gives me so much hope that everywhere I look is someone who is remembering who they really are and why they came here. Please don't give up❤️
To quote @truebloodhbo “Oh , I’m not doing this for him , I’m doing this for me so I can be proud of my home.” That’s right , I’m quoting True Blood because I’m a very refined and sophisticated individual. But really , I feel so good after I get my lashes done and brows waxed. My husband probably doesn’t even notice and that’s cool . It’s not really for him , just makes ME feel the way I want to feel .
When I have lashes on I don’t bother with makeup . I let my freckles shine and maybe put on some clear gloss . That’s when I feel the most “me” in this crazy world .
Do what makes you feel good . If that’s a full face of makeup , do it . If it’s nothing , do it . If it’s a band T-shirt and boxers , do it . If it’s a lace thong , do it . Love it , own it , do it . Sponsored by Nike (just kidding).
You are not going to love yourself on day one.❌⠀
If you've spent literally years tearing yourself down, criticizing every move, thinking you're not good enough, assuming you'll never be happy, and hating the skin you're in, then it will take some time.⠀
Going from hate 👉 love would be overwhelming!⠀
And it's just not realistic...⠀
So instead, we take it slow...⠀
Start with just not bullying yourself. Cut the criticism and harsh judgment.⠀
Become a neutral party. Neither good nor bad, you just are.⠀
Move to like. Liking yourself is awesome!⠀
Then eventually, onto love. And once you get here, watch out! Your life will transform more than you know.⠀
So if you've been overwhelmed with all this talk of self love and thinking "I can't even imagine! That feels so far away right now..." then please take a deep breath and release that. You don't go from crawling to running a marathon. One baby step at a time.⠀
You can 100% learn to love yourself.⠀
I've experienced this in my own life and with many clients. It is without a doubt true for me and for you.⠀
Remember, unconditional love is the end game, not the first step.⠀
Is this idea empowering for you or not? I'd love to hear in the comments 👇 👇 👇⠀
“I love this new side of you.”
Got that message in my inbox this morning from one of you beautiful people who’s followed along and supported me on my journey for quite a while now ☺️
It’s been an interesting ride sharing the spiritual side of myself that I’ve been uncovering and connecting to over the past 9 months...the crystals, the pendulum, the oracle cards, the childhood trauma, the energy healing, the manifestation tips...all the so called “woo woo” stuff ✨🔮✨
Some of you think I’m batshit crazy (I get it...a year ago I would’ve thought I was too 😂)
But what’s been absolutely fascinating to me is how many of you have shared with me that you’re also at least somewhat into this type of thing OR that I’ve piqued your interest and you wanna be 🤔
I learned today through #HumanDesign that when it comes to the work that I do, I’m meant to be disruptive 💣
I’m meant to figure out what’s old and played out and not working anymore, and then be the guinea pig until I find a new and better way.
I’m meant to channel all of that energy towards a mission that lights me up...one that I could talk about all day long...and then create offers that push that mission out into the world.
The not so coincidental thing is that that’s EXACTLY what I’ve already been doing with my 28 Day Experience that I’ve been talking about for the past week and a half that starts on Monday.
Whether you still think I’m weird AF or whether the stuff I talk about here in social media land resonates with you...if the way you’re living your life feels OLD...PLAYED OUT...and just flat out ISN’T WORKING FOR YOU anymore...then you’re reading this post right now because you’re an energetic match for it.
What I’ve got in store for you in my 28 Day Experience is the new and better way that you’ve been hoping for, but weren’t sure even exists.
So reach TF out k? T minus 3 days til we start and I want you there with us...YOU want you there with us ❤️
1 82 hours ago
♓️🐟 Posted @withregram • @moonomens Read the article in @moonomens bio to learn about the energy around this Upcoming New Moon and what it means for you. Enjoy! 🌑 ✨ 🍃
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My senior year of high school I came across a post on tumblr by a girl explaining how much she loved having a buzzed head and not wearing femme clothes. But, because of the way other people perceived her with her hair cropped close, she began wearing makeup and dresses to compensate—of course just to realize that it was making her miserable. .
During this time I was actually beginning to accept and believe the things I was learning about self love and body positivity and feminism rather than just absorbing the information and believing it for /other people/ but not necessarily for myself. This post and this painting that was inspired by it I count as a major milestone in my growth as a better, happier person and as one of the many signs in retrospect that I have never been cis or binary. .
This is a limited palette (red, blue, and white) acrylic painting on cardboard and is now up for sale on my Etsy shop, yoshiharuart! Though this piece means a lot to me, I don’t have the space for it to be fully appreciated and would rather someone else who does have the space take it for themself. .
Evie’s angel is with a good and loving home with the lovely Hayley and Evie who bought her at the Petone Fair last weekend.💜
I made her from Eastbourne driftwood, Trade Aid recycled sari silk twine, a found button and recycled tip-shop wire.
My angels reflect my experience of who we are as humans:
a mélange of odds and sods
from throughout our lives,
a mix of rough and smooth,
rich in imperfection.
Serious and playful,
the haloes are both
conceit of composition
and touch of whimsy:
wobbly, crooked, rusty in places.
As much as possible, I use what I find or what is ethically produced. I don’t alter the materials. I use them as and how they are:
weather-beaten, ragged, broken, twisted, split, frayed, dry and dented, shells and shards rubbed smooth by tides and sand,
reflecting my wish that we accept each other (and ourselves!) as and how we are. Yep, it’s a challenge sometimes!
Not all my angels are pretty or cute like this one, because life isn’t always nice is it? We all know pain and struggle.
Aroha mai, aroha atu
Love towards us, love from us.
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“Slowing Down Is Okay” aims to remind viewers that consistently moving quickly isn’t sustainable, where oftentimes, your peers may need a breath to work through possible solutions. For my residency at @analoglab.
My exercise for the day. 2laps 1.184 miles . Been slacking but this makes up for it until I get back into the gym full force
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You don’t have to look far to see how much our culture has to use shame to override human biology and our deep need for connection to others.
I don’t want to let that internalized shame travel down any more generations through me.❤️
Repost from last year 😘
Because of the the unhealthy messages we learned in childhood (and some in adulthood), and the natural negative bias that's wired into our brains,
we have a lot working against our deep desire to be happy, brave, bold,
and feel good about exactly who we are.
Which is why it takes more than an affirmation,
or a commitment to positive thinking to get a handle on our minds and emotions.
Your brain wants you to stay where you are - if it's used to you feeling bad, it will do whatever it can to keep you there.
Not because your brain is a sadist,
but because it's job is to keep you alive, and the best way to keep you alive is to keep doing what it's always done - you're alive right now, so it must be working - right?
It takes work to change your brain from a stressed, anxious, worried, self-doubting, easily upsettable one,
to a more calm, confident, grounded, unmesswithable one.
It takes the proper tools, habits, healing, key shifts and support along each step of the way.
I’m going to teach them to you in The Shift Society.
The link is in my profile to join us: @juliacounsellor
Double tap if it’s a relief to know that your struggles are not because there’s something wrong with you, but because you’ve leaned some (very) wrong things.
51 1,06717 February, 2020
I’ve been following this account for the last couple of weeks. This post right here hit me like a ton of bricks. When you notice that someone is attempting to control their life is because they have either struggled with heavy trauma or are struggling at the moment. This is them trying to get their power back. Their abusers call it controlling because they are losing access to their victim. #staywoke#itsnotalwayswhatitseems#trustme
Posted @withregram • @holisticallygrace All behaviors make sense in context. No, we don’t have to carry the weight of the labels we or others have placed on us.
When we lack the basics in our childhood (safety, consistency, care), we adapt. We mold ourselves to whatever is being provided by our caregivers, settling for breadcrumbs because it’s better than nothing at all. We survive in the instability.
As we get older and start to explore our autonomy, we get a taste of the control we never felt growing up. And what a sweet taste it is, especially for our brains. Any situation that our brain perceives as unknown or where we feel powerless activates our fight/flight response. .
Feeling power and knowing that we are in charge is soothing to the mind/body system. This is how we learn that if we have control, we can keep ourselves safe, limit our pain and no longer feel victimized.
Is it any wonder then that as adults the need for control was reinforced, intensified because it provided a false sense of safety? Wouldn’t it make sense, if it soothed our anxiety and allowed us to survive?
Controlling and being in control is not a “bad” thing, but it can become problematic in our relationships, work environments, families. The rigidity and inability to let go of our control can even harm our health.
This is where we can start to get curious with ourselves. Explore our upbringing, ask ourselves “What am I seeking?” It’s likely not control, but rather safety. Then, we can start looking inward and employing ways to create safety, self-regulate the internal (breathing, meditation, movement, counseling, etc.) instead of excessively needing to control the external.
Does this resonate with you?
Note: this is just one
74 2,70415 February, 2020
In case you needed a reminder...all bellies fold over.
I generally have a strong front and I get uncomfortable showing my vulnerability. Yet I have been suffering from crippling insecurities regarding my weight and cellulite ever since I was a teenager. I always connected my cellulite to my weight and believed that if I lost the weight, all the cellulite would disappear. That didn't happen.
So I resorted to shock wave therapy and coffee scrubs and I also eliminated dairy and bought "anti-cellulite" creams, and guess what? Nothing ever worked. But I continued to carry so much shame and guilt, and blamed myself for having "such an ugly body".
I wish I could say that today I am posting this picture with love for my body and cellulite but I don't. And honestly, I don't know if I ever will 'love' my cellulite or if I even have to but what I do know is that I accept my body and refuse to define my self-worth through my cellulite 🙏🏽
Sharing this is not easy for me but I know it is important to normalize cellulite for all the women in the SWANA community and others who still struggles with unrealistic beauty standards.
Do you have any struggles with self-acceptance or your body image?
الناس دائماً مفكرتني قوية وعندي ثقة عالية بحالي بس عندي عقدة من جسمي وبالذات من السيلوليت وعانيت ومن أنا مراهقة من هادا الموضوع. كرهت جسمي وفكرت إني إذا نحفت راح يروح السيلوليت بس لما نحفت ما راح
جربت كل شي ممكن مثل علاج الموجة الصادمة وكريمات ووقفت المنتجات الألبان واشتريت منتجات للتخلص من السيلوليت بس ولا شي نفع معي وكنت أضحك على حالي وأقنع حالي إنه هاي المنتجات بتجيب نتيجة وإذا ما جابت ألوم نفسي على جسمي البشع
أنا اليوم ما عّم بحكي إنه أنا بحب السيلوليت ومش حاسة إنه ضروري أحبه أصلاً بس أنا صرت أعرف إنه قيمتي ما بتنقاس بالسيلوليت اللي على جسمي وما راح أضيع وقتي 🙏🏽وطاقتي على هادا الموضوع
طبعاً مش سهل إني أنزل هيك صورة بس أنا عارفة إنه مهم إني أشارك هادا الموضوع مع النساء العرب اللي بيعانوا من نفس الموضوع وعايشين في مجتمعات بتقيمنا على أشكالنا ومعايير جمال مش واقعية
هل أنتي بتعاني من صعوبات بتقبل جسمك؟
50 15720 February, 2020
today I challenged a client to take a picture of herself (or have someone else take it) every single day for a week. not posed. not planned. not manufactured or camera-ready. but just doing normal things. sitting on the couch watching a fave show. cooking dinner. doing one last mirror check before heading to work. drinking coffee in the morning. taking a walk. doesn’t matter, just one picture .
why did I do this? because what if we started looking at pictures of ourselves and saw the wonderful life we live instead of the “flaws” in our body? because what if instead of becoming anxious or resentful of time being captured in a photo, we felt thankful for those reminders of the people and blessings in our lives ?
so I decided to join my client in this challenge I gave her. and this is a picture of me at my desk, unshowered wearing a ragged walmart sweater and wondering what people will think of me. but I look at it and choose to be thankful for a job I love and a productive day’s work instead .
talking all about body image on my stories, and I encourage you to check it out