There isn’t a more truthful advice than this. I’ve had to learn personally and professionally as well. At some point, we have to make a choice and a tough decision for our well-being. It is never easy to let go of relationships but it’s necessary. ❤️ #Repost @drsharoncohen with @get_repost
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Are you in a job, relationship, friendship where you are putting out more than you are getting back?
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In a friendship, never love another woman more than she loves you.
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In a romantic relationship, better to have the man love you just a teeny bit more.
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In a job, their paycheck is their loyalty to you. Don't get it twisted. I've had too many friends and I've been there myself where I was giving SO much to a job only to have them turn around and if they decided to cut back, loyalty isn't a word that has anything to do with the decision-making. It's a logical decision made around the bottom line. It's not a bad or evil thing. It's what makes sense for a business that needs to continue to survive.
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So how do YOU survive in what seems like such a harsh reality when you're the person who values loyalty? //
Be loyal to yourself FIRST.
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If something is starting to FEEL one-sided, TAKE NOTE. It's probably been that way for a while. Sometimes in life, things can get one-sided due to circumstances. I always gave my girlfriends six months when they got a new boyfriend for them to "disappear" for a while to get to know their new man. I gave them six months again when they made a big life change - moving in together, marriage, new baby, change in job. If they returned after six months, no hard feelings, at all.
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If they didn't return, and what I mean by that is that when I reached out - it was one-sided. I didn't get reciprocal reaching back. I didn't take it personally, but we now were in different places and I wasn't willing to be in a one-sided relationship.
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I had a conversation earlier with a friend who was having a one-sided experience with a beau. He was not valuing her time, energy or space. She didn't want to hurt his feelings by breaking it off because she didn't want to cause him pain.
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If you are not willing to cause pain, then you are only hurting yourself

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